She also obsesses over being skinny and boys. what can i say to her to let her know this is not all that is important.
2006-11-24 04:31:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
justtell her to chop mens hands off if they touch her it'll work lol
2006-11-24 04:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by Brittaney x3's Holden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my... it may be a little too late, these things need to start when kids are young. At 9, her friends probably have more influence on her than you do.
All I can suggest is getting her involved in sports, encourage whatever talent she has and focus on that.
As a kid, I had the opposite problem. By 9, I was a B-cup, by high school a D-cup. But I suffered from low self-esteem. I believed that I had no talents and was not very smart or capable at excelling in sports. So I thought that my big boobs were all I had to offer. How I would've loved to have been told how smart I was, or what an awesome soccer player I was, or just had any other part of my personality recognised! I would've loved for someone to recognise how good with younger kids I was, and that maybe I should be a teacher. Kids do react to that kind of stuff.
Good luck!
2006-11-24 04:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
9 years is a little young to be worried about that sort of thing. Does she have friends that are developing? If so, she may be comparing herself to them. Otherwise, I'd be honest with her about the changes that will eventually happen to her. As far as body appearance goes, talk with her about the many different body types that are "out there" and encourage her that as long as she's eating a balanced diet, and maintaining a good level of physical activity that she'll be physically fit (which is more important than skinny!). If she continues to seem obsessed you may want to contact the counselors at her school to see if there is some sort of "peer pressure" problem occuring there.
2006-11-24 04:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by Chris N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emphasize typical women. Let her know that skinny is atypical. Show her women that she will respect (does she want a pony? show her a breeder. Does she like dolls? show her a doll designer. Does she like cookies? Show her a chef.) Emphasize typical women in a position that she respects greatly, and that might help her.
Also, be comfortable knowing that at this age, it's more or less monkey see monkey do. One of her friends at school probably has an older daughter who is having some fun with her 9 year old sister and saying lots of this stuff. I'm sure your 9 year old daughter doesn't actually believe, probably doesn't even understand, many of the concepts she is saying. It'll pass.
2006-11-24 04:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by Justin N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to explain to her a little about puberty you dont have to go in to detail to much just start by telling her that she is developing at a normal rate and that she will start to develop when he is a little older between the ages of 13 and 16. and that some girls develop faster than others but this is normal. and id try to talk to her about how boys and her weight shouldnt be a very big deal and maybe you could show her pictures of famous people that arent that skinny. i know that one will be a tuffy but he size wont make who she is on the inside. she is probly just picking stuff up off of what she watches on tv. and what she hears on the radio, cause an average 9 yr old usually doesnt worry about these things. they are more in to sleep overs and normal kid stuff.
2006-11-24 04:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by cute redhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's your fault, what does a 9 year old know about a chest, the only thing she should know about chest isthat its a game, and boys honey keep it up and you'll be a grandmother by the time your 32 if you don't talk to her know, there was this show on Trya about a little girl eating nothing but paper cause she wanted to be thin, you really need to show her some picture and talk to her about this
2006-11-26 14:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, she probably sees you trying to be skinny even if you try to hide it, she can tell. Plus the girls at school see it from their parents and the magazines. I don't believe there is much to say, you can't change a person. Like when my husband says I look good, in the back of my head I'm thinking yeah right. Just tell her to be herself, and stay true to who she really is, tell her people will like her better when she is real and not pretend
2006-11-24 05:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mi sis is 9 n shes sorta lik dat 2!!!!Quess dar all d same!!!!4 d chest tel her dat dayll grow in a few years n just tel her dat she looks beutiful just d way she is!!!
Good luck once she gets 2 mi age (14)
Luvz ya hun
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2006-11-24 04:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to criticize your own body in front of her. When she watches TV and sees super-skinny models, or if she sees them on magazine covers comment on how sickly they look. Tell her that being too skinny is just as unhealthy as being over-weight.
2006-11-24 04:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her "all in good time sweetheart" I have a 10 year old who doesn't have a chest either. It's very normal.
2006-11-24 21:00:40 · answer #10 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it will come with time and to not be in such a hurry boys her age are not really worried about that yet. Good luck
2006-11-24 04:54:32 · answer #11 · answered by nickieandsarahsmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋