do i tell him i love him, and take a chance of scaring him off, i know he cares about me , just dont know if he feels the same way
2006-11-24 04:09:43 · 14 answers · asked by QP 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmmm... three months is a little early to be "in love". i would wait and make sure what your feeling is really love and not infatuation.
2006-11-24 04:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by jrtootsiepop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you've been dating him for three months does not mean that you have to tell him you love him... As you correctly guessed, a lot of relationships have been ended by scaring the other person off by doing this...
Tell him if the time is right, but if there is any chance he doesn't feel the same way about you (caring for someone is a lot different from loving them, let alone saying that they love them) then your best bet is to hold your tongue for the time being
2006-11-24 12:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by C.G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT DO IT!!! If you like him at all, doing this will scare him off or cause him to take advantage of you. Show some pride here! Spend time with other friends and be a little unavailable for him. If he asks whats up with that, then tell him that you thought he did not care for you that much, as he had not spoken up about the subject. Force his hand here. Make him earn your love and affection. Males will quickly lose interest in a female that requires no effort on his part.
2006-11-24 12:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by dragunov 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that three months is long enough to tell if you're in love with someone. Give it some time, and when you feel completely secure in your relationship with him, tell him. If he doesn't feel the same way, don't pressure him to love you back. Just give him time. If, after a while, nothing changes, then maybe he isn't the one for you.
2006-11-24 12:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by Jenyfer C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriends and I have not even been dating for a month
and somtimes in our emails
well ALL the time now
like at the end of the email when you put your name,
right before it put
soomthing like
"love you"
then your name
see if he does it back,
if he asks about it then just tell him that you really love him and just wanted to see if he felt the same way
most likly he won't ask so hopefully he will put it back and you two will get into the habit of ALWAYs putting it!
2006-11-24 12:17:38 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Mystery 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you know you risk scaring him off by telling him yo love him why tell him?will it change the relationship in any way?and if you know he cares strongly for you is that not enough?waht if you tell hem and you are looking to here it in return,and he doesnt tell you back how would you feel?you either let things go as they are for now,or have aconvo with him and tell him how you feel,but you dont want to scare him off and you want to know how he feels about you.
2006-11-24 12:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by alexander 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I supose ur 18 or older take a chance if u not take the chnace u make u will think everyone what will had haooend that is if he left u life is all about that
2006-11-24 12:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why so soon? What ever happened to the long courtships where you got to know the other person. One reason for the divorce rate is these quick courtships and fast marriage without knowing who you are involved with.
2006-11-24 12:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by bubbles_grandpa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should have a heart-to-heart with him... :D Tell him not to be scared off...
Start out slowly saying all the things that you enjoy about being with him... And see what he says in return...
2006-11-24 12:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never tell a guy you love him until he has proven/says that he loves you.......something about the male ego thing....Maybe you can say I could love you but I want to see and learn more about you....that'll motivate him if he desires your love.
2006-11-24 12:14:34 · answer #10 · answered by Prudent World 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋