2006-11-24 04:08:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
i wouldnt say so...my lil sister went through grades 9 and 10 with barely passing marks. My parents tried everything to get her to try harder, to get better marks. Cash, punishment, vacations, you name it. The teachers at her school finally told her to just try doing government schooling at home (called Distance Learning). She is now doing much better, she can work at her own pace, and if she really needs help, she can go into the office and get it.
Again, it could not be your child, it could be there environment. And if you child really is trying, its not fair to the kid to punish them for their lack of abilities.
2006-11-24 04:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grounding a child for poor grades is a punishment that does not fit the crime. You take priveleges away when priveleges are abused. If he/she is trying hard to succeed in school, it doesn't sound like he/she is abusing any priveleges. If they were not getting their homework done, I would try a "No TV or games until you finish your homework" rule, and enforce it. The same rule could be modified if the child is having trouble with some other type of distraction - for example, talking to friends on the phone. But setting up and enforcing rules is not the same as grounding them.
It sounds like your child needs more help from you to understand the concepts he/she is trying to learn in school. Please try to spend a half hour with him/her every day to help. And implement a REWARD system for when the child gets good grades (starting now, with test scores and the like.) Rewards should be simple and not encourage bad habits - for example, junk food is a bad reward. A good reward would be going to a movie with you, or playing board games with you for a night, things like that. Books are excellent rewards if your child likes them.
Good luck!
2006-11-24 12:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by Heidi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that a child should ever be grounded for poor grades, ground them for not working or for fooling around at school but never say it is the grades that are the excuse. Offer them support, understanding and a safe and happy place to grow up and they'll become whoever they were meant to be. When they hit adulthood and start work grades don't matter but a happy and stable family will mean everything to them.
2006-11-24 12:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fair is a bad choice of word, u need to look at how he/she is trying and what is the root of it? If he's going out to play and then too tired to study, maybe u should adjust his play time, etc. if u think grounding would help, then look into that, but grounding seldom solves a problem.
also, consider getting him/her tested for learning disabilities, the earlier the better
2006-11-24 12:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by ms.chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was in school, my mother (who had a lifelong career in elementary school education herself) did not punish me for low grades unless she felt I wasn't trying. She would reward me for putting in a strong effort, and get me extra help in subjects where I was trying hard but not getting good results. Punishing someone who is trying but not doing well will only make them hate school and give up working so hard. I mean, if you're only going to get grounded anyway, why work for it? I hope Lauren doesn't have kids; she will be raising future dropouts.
2006-11-24 12:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by julz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not good because you cause the child pain and Yes because the child does not want to be grounded so he or she will try do better.
You will have to help the child to do better by teaching the child at home, reducind the chores he or she has to do and giving him or her at least one day as leisure.
Thanks.
2006-11-24 12:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by Stephy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should ground them, instead you should help them. Tutoring may be an option for a child to get better grades or you can help. It's better than punishing them for trying things they cant comprehend.
2006-11-24 15:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the child is truly trying his/her best (doing all homework HIMSELF, asking questions and participating in class, doing all classwork, studying for tests, etc.), then no -- it makes no sense to punish or ground the child if he/she is indeed trying hard.
2006-11-24 12:21:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good to make clear that good schoolwork is important, but if there are shortcomings, despite consistent effort, then what is needed is primarily help, not punishment. Why not institute regular sessions to tackle weak areas, using home study materials?
2006-11-24 12:26:58 · answer #9 · answered by Sangmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people just aren't academic and if she's/he trying then it's definitely not right to punish her/him for bad grades. Maybe find something for him/her to do that he/she is good at and work on that as a more positive way forward
2006-11-24 12:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by nell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋