has anyone else found themselves ousted by their "church", for a sin?

Question

I left my church, and as a type of prodigal daughter came back when I realized I had messed up (and became pregnant). When I went back to my church no one really talked to me, except one friend I had kept in touch with, who knew the whole time what I was going through. I was kind of cast out, and the pastor even told me that I should keep coming because, although my treatment by the congregation was unfair that he felt I needed to be part of a lesson on perserverence and understanding. When I went back after I had my child the people of the congregation refused to ackowledge her presence!
I am offended by the lack of true christian brotherhood and commraderie I was shown, by a congregation that is supposed to be so close to God.
If you feel the need to tell me it was because I sinned and 1 corinthians said I should be cast out, then maybe you should read that whole chapter, or perhaps the whole book, and then shut your "pie hole".

Answer 1

Too many stories like this----------one of the reasons I left Christianity for another religion.

Another story--

A couple (unmarried) moved to the fairly small town where my parents lived. They went to church and quickly tried to become active in it. My mother proudly told me that the minister (Methodist Church) told them they were not allowed to come to their church anymore as they were living in sin. If they wanted to be members they must marry first. They married and became active in the church. I'd have told them where to go and found another church.

Same church-------several Black women started to come to the church. This town had only recently ''allowed'' Blacks to move into town------yeah! In 2004 it was. My mother's friends commented, ''It's alright. They sit in the back by themselves, and don't bother anyone''.

This is the same Methodist Church that has ads on TV saying they are the church of diversity and open doors to all?

Answer 2

No, because of the fact the Vatican's "riches" are used to help classes to help the damaging, the oppressed, the hungry and the ill international. Obscene wealth skill wealth that does no stable - creates no jobs, feeds no hungry, heals no ill. it extremely is amazingly far from what the Vatican, and the Catholic Church as an entire, does. certainly, the Vatican often runs a defecit. In those years wherein it has run a surplus (fees have been below earnings) the quantity has been small (around 3 million euros in 2004 - below $4 million on the time). For a Church with 1000000000 contributors, it extremely is a tiny volume.

Answer 3

some people think they are better than you and use religion to lift themselves up. here is a perfect example.

The doctrine of the Nicolaitans was mentioned in the Apocalypse of John Revelation chapter 2. It is a symbolic name of a group of people that represents the hierarchy of a ruling class over the rest of the people, developing a pecking order of fleshly leadership. Jesus hates this and warns the people to repent. It is not the question of the ministries but rather in the separation of them into a hierarchy over the people. This very idea was taken over by the Protestants with their own corruption of leadership roles and coverings. The Church of Ephesus was commended for hating the deeds of the Nicolaitans. The wrong separation of the clergy from the laity is a great evil in God's sight and He hates the lust for religious power over others. There is an ungodly spiritual authority in the Church today, which is nothing more than the prideful spirit of control, manipulation, domination and intimidation and a rebellion of the rightful authority of God.

Answer 4

Being "cast out" usually means excommunicated from the Church for some sin or perhaps for otherwise rebelling against the teachings and doctrines of the church. In the church I attend, we can be excommunicated for things like adultery, criminal activities, murder, etc. However, the church stays in touch with us and helps us get back if we desire to do so. There is a probation period during which you need to change your bad behavior, make things right (if possible) related to anyone you hurt, and generally repent and become a new person. If this is accomplished, you are baptized again and receive a new start. During the entire period, you're welcome to attend church and others go out of their way to make you feel welcomed and loved.

The Church I attend (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints) has special services available for members in your situation. We are to assist them in learning to be good mothers, and make sure that the physical, spiritual and emotional needs of the family are met. The new mother is as welcomed and loved as any other person and we crawl over each other to get a chance to hold and enjoy her baby. We believe we are all sisters of God, and try to live up to that.

EVERYONE makes mistakes and if others are judging you for your errors, then they will be held accountable for trying to act in God's place, for being hypocrites, and for casting the first stone unworthily. Hold your head up, let your mistakes teach you wisdom so you don't repeat them, raise your child in love and faith, and keep moving forward. Forgive those who persecute you -- raise your actions above theirs. You are a daughter of God.

Answer 5

I would never cast you out. This is wrong and not true Christianity. Church is supposed to accept all and welcome all.

I would find a new church. There are many good churches out there that would accept you with open arms, you and your baby. It really makes me MAD as heck to hear this. Sorry to say many churches are forming clickes and they decide who to let into their little group.
You are too good for this church, find a better one. God forgives all sin as soon as you ask. Is what you did a sin or was it a learning experience for your soul. I bleieve the latter. I dont really believe in sin and I am a Christian. I believe in God our maker. I believe he wants us to be holy. In order to be closer to him, our souls must learn and grow while in this lifetime.

What lessons are we supposed to learn?

forgiveness, love, understanding, tolerance, courage, wisdom,
hope, faith, patience, and compassion.

If your church does not practise these, find a new place to worship. And remember you are a gift from God and so is your daughter. Talk to him often, he really does listen.

Answer 6

What kind of people who praise and worship the Lord would be so callous to do such a thing. Is this not passing judgement? Judge you not, for ye be judged. Hate the sin and not the sinner!
This is the reason I do not belong to any organized religion. You are a child of God and he loves you period. He who is without sin cast the first stone! Relax, you and your daughter are loved and it was in Gods plan for her to be born.

May the grace of our lord God surround you and your family and the light of Jesus Christ shine and protect you always.

Answer 7

First of all I would like to apologize for those ignorant so called Christians......
He who has no sin let him cast the first stone.
How dare them treat you that way.
Then after the baby is born, they do not acknowledge her. You did not deserve to be treated that way, than to treat your baby that way, that is ridiculous. Pray for them all, including the pastor,he should have prayed on judgment. No one has the right to treat you that way. I bet that your baby is as beautiful as you, you keep on pressing on and find another church. God will take care of you.

Answer 8

That is NOT Christ-like behaviour on the part of the congregation, and I would find another church where I could grow in love and closeness both to God AND to my brothers and sisters in Christ. SHAME ON THEM, and shame on that pastor for not rebuking them. You stand TALL, honey! God loves you! I do too!

Answer 9

I thought that churches, especially those that call themselves "Christian" were supposed to help "sinners' repent and heal, not pass judgement on their members. How hypocritical! There are many churches, my dear. If organized religion is important to you, you must find one that practises compasion and forgiveness. I wish you peace and good luck.

Answer 10

There is a quote in the Bible that says
....go and sin no more....It doesn't mean stop going to church. Remember that those people who treat you that way think they are with out sin.

Go to church, learn forgiveness and His word. God Bless you.