What shall I do? Reply or not?

Question

I met a guy last Thursday. He is 10 year older than me. It was like love at first sight. I spent 24 hr with him during the week end. It was awesome, he kept telling me on we were the same, he was soooo loving and caring etc...That was Sunday afternoon.
As I was missing him, I left him a message on Tuesday and Wed morning, then I sent him an email (on Match.com). He replied to cancel our may be Wednesday night date and asked me how was my schedule for next week. What does this mean?
He never called me but he desactivated his profile from Match, I had just reactivated mine because I was pissed. The next day he reactivated his...What does this mean?
I have not replied to his mail yet. What shall I reply?
I am really into him and I want him to feel the same. What shall I do? I need a good strategy. He even asked me to go with to the Super ball in January. I am so LOST. HELP please....

Answer 1

You need to play it cool. DO the opposite of what you are doing - dont call or text or leave messages or email - simply do nothing, and he will come running in no time.

Answer 2

Well, it sounds like you two got your wires crossed. You sent him an e-mail and he replied with asking what you had planned for the following week. It sounds like he had something come up and he wouldn't be able to make it on Wednesday. So he wanted to know if you would have time the following week. As far as him deactivating his profile, that was probably done so that he could concentrate on you. He wanted to see where you and him would lead, so he deleted his profile. I would have to say that's a common thing on dating sites. If you meet someone and want to see where's it's going, you delete, or make unsearchable your profile.
My question to you would be why did you get pissed and reactivate yours? Did you assume that he didn't want to go out on another date with you so you just reposted your profile? That just tells him that your putting yourself back on the dating scene, and you'd rather not see where it might go with him. And he probably took it that way and reposted his as well, assuming the worst. Guys tend to do that, it's just in our nature. We always assume the worst.
I think that you should give him a call and tell him how you feel. If you don't ,he's never going to know how you feel. And, quite honestly, you just might miss out on a good thing because your over analyzing the situation. It sounds like he is doing the same thing.
I had a similar experience on Match.com when I met someone off of that site. We went out and had a wonderful time, a 7 hour date. But for some reason, she decided that I had done something wrong and she got mad at me. Well, lo and behold, she had reactivated her profile. I called her and asked why, and she told me that she assumed that since she got mad at me, I wouldn't want to have anything to do with her. We talked about it and she realized that she had jumped the gun. It was just a miscommunication on both of our parts.
So, I can understand where your coming from. But I think that you need to call him and talk things through if you really like him that much. It couldn't hurt anything. If anything, it might alleviate whatever tension is there. I wish you luck, and hope everything works out.

Answer 3

Well the first thing you need to do is stop acting so damn desperate. Why would you spend an entire night with someone you barely know. That is why you are having all of these mixed emotions. And why are you thinking of strategies, just be yourself. Stop playing games, that is why you are in the position you are in. just relax and be yourself. You don't even know this man, all you know is what he has told you. Actions speak louder than words. So just hang in there if he is serious you will hear from him again. He may be doing this with a great deal of women. Slow down. God bless****

Answer 4

well hun somehting doesn't sound right to me.if u got too into him (if u know what i mean)he culd be thinking oh she must do that alot.or mayb that's why he's on there in the 1st place.i met alot of guys threw phoneline chat & met some total players & some really cool guys.i am engaged to one of them now & have been with him for 3yrs.there are great guys out there u just got to take it slowly & really know them b4 u get too carried away in the moment.when the right guy comes along,u'll know & ther will be no doubts.i promise.but to me sounds like this guys unfortantley got what he wanted &now has bailed.srry.take care.

Answer 5

You will have wonderful relationship then. However, it depends on you. When you love someone and you don't know if he also loves you, you will feel sensitive to what small things he did. It is usual for us human to feel so. Stay relax and wait until he say that he loves you, then you won't feel that way anymore. But, again it depends on you. Man does not like if you do care about him too much, go along with him, and give what your best for him. He also human who has love in his heart, soon he will know, and soon you both will know how your relationship is going to be.

Answer 6

There is no strategy.playing games is not the way to go.just be straight up and cut through the b/s.just let him know you are somewhat feeling him and you are hoping that he feels the same way about you.and see where it goes

Answer 7

wait for him to get back in touch with u if he is really interested he will come back trust me just dont ignore his next message

Answer 8

just go with the flow let him like u dont worry hes probably in the same boat as u calm down. just go out with him on another date ask him wat he thinks like i said he might be in the same boat as u

Answer 9

it means your immature and fall for anything he says and he is a turd looking for a younger slut.