To the guys please.....?

Question

So, guys...is it true that all men watch porn?? If u were in love and your girlfiend asked you to not watch it b/c she was morally against it...would you stop looking at it??? Seriously!!

Well I am against it b/c I feel like it is degrading to women and I feel like if u r in a relationship then u shouldn't be looking at other naked women. Yes it is completely natural to look at and be attracted to members of the opposite sex, of course. If he wasn't I would be worried. That is not the issue..I look at other men. It isn't about control, it is about respect...there is nothing else I have asked him not to do. It is his life but I feel like this is disrespectful to me.

Answer 1

Yeah i sometimes look at it (not that its conversation that pops up over a nice cup of tea) but if she asked me to stop i definitley would, its not that big a deal really just a bit of fun.

Answer 2

Men are very visual creatures and most guys will watch it sometime during different stages of life. But it is not so difference as women reading romantic novels. But if I was in a relationship there would not be a issue. I would not have to substitute with porn. But I guess you would also have to look at your issue is why he feels that he needs to watch it could it be a immature issue or is there a issues with his performance or is he lacking experience it could be deeper than you think. Talk to him about it and see if he would just drop it on his own. But be careful of the male ego. Good luck

Answer 3

I was a very jealous person not too long ago. I didn't like my boyfriend looking at any girls or magazines or anything like that (although I never mentioned it to him).

I've always been that way until about recently. I've been with this man for over a year now (I'm 19) and about 2 months ago, I finally let go of being jealous. I realized that it's human nature for a man to look at other women and they are genetically born to want to "please" themselves, much more than women want to.

I realized that I'm beautiful and can have more than my choice of men if I was single. I realized that at the end of the day, if I left him, I'd break his heart. I realized that I'm worth the time and that he loves me, even if he looks at porn.

Basically, when I catch him looking at another girl or if he makes comments, I just remember that guys look at me all the time and that I could break his heart in a second. I remember that it's human nature and that I look at other people, too!

I hope you realize the same thing one day! Life is much easier this way.

Answer 4

Why would she be morally against it? Is she so insecure in her own self that she would think he will act on his desire to see beautiful women having sex? Is it not arousing to you? Seriously? You can't possibly tell me that you do not get aroused from watching a man take it to a woman. Think about that for a minute. If no one in the world knew you were watching it? You would. You would want to know what new things to try with your lover. You should explore a little more and realize that he loves you, he simply wants to learn and try new things to keep it fresh in the bedroom.

Answer 5

Most do watch it, some might if their SO was morally against it.

But look on the bright side, at least he isn't watching sports all the time. Guys lose money betting on sports, I've never heard of anyone losing a house because they bet on a copy of hustler.

Not to minimize your concern, but I know women whose ex boy friends and ex-husbands beat them senseless after getting drunk every night, and got the household into thousands of dollars of debt. Looking at dirty pictures is saintly by comparison.

Answer 6

Well..............

For me, I watch porn because I am not getting a degree of satisfaction in my sex life. (What sex life? I haven't had sex in 15 years.)

I would stop watching porn if I felt I got something in return: affection, consideration, love. But if you want me to stop just becuase you were against it, what stops you for requesting I stop drinking beer, because you are morally against alcohol? Or I stop eating meat because you are morally against the treatment of the animals that grace our tables?

I would respond better if you wanted me to stop because you found it degrading and feel that porn is corrosive to a loving, caring relationship.

Pick your reasons that make it tough to reject them out of hand

Answer 7

No i wouldn't,but i would respect her feeling and not watch it in front of her or leave it out where she would see it.Remember watching porn is like any other show you would watch on T.V. If you don't like it,turn the channel.You have no right to try to dictate what i watch,how i dress,where i go,who i go with,who i choose to be friends with.And he doesn't have that right either.What your now doing is trying to control the other and that's wrong.Those are YOUR feelings,not mine.Deal with yours,I'll deal with mine.

Answer 8

Huh? C'mon people! You are morally against it not him. Stop with that whole if he loved me he would do this or if he loved me he would do that.....blah blah blah. The same can apply to you. He was into this before he meet you and he will be into it while he is with you. I think it's nonsense to ask someone to be who they are not cause it is uncomfortable for you. I say if you don't like his behavior find someone who is more in tune with yours. And no I wouldn't stop watching it cause thats what I like. If you don't like it don't watch it but don't put your beliefs on me. Stop judging people based on your beliefs as it relates to what they like to watch. Are we as a society so selfcentered.

Answer 9

Most men do, I do at times, and if asked by the one who loves me...yes I would stop.

Answer 10

No, its actually quite sad. I watched a bit to see the fuss and its just bollocks - what kind of sick guys watch it? They need to get a life.. or at least a girl friend!