If you loved everything about the person except sex, would you still marry them? After several years, and numerous attempts(explaining verbally), I still feel like I am having sex with a virgin. It is the clumsiest and least passionate sex I have ever had.
2006-11-24 03:06:28 · 18 answers · asked by stacey h 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Absolutly not... you will regret it eventually. As you know sex isn't everything but it is important.. If you have told him what works and what doesn't and he just doesn't have passion within him... Wow, what a bummer... Tough call, but I wouldn't subject myself to a life without passion.
- sorry
2006-11-24 03:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on what value you place on sex. Lots of marriages lose their sex drive after a few years anyway, so your problem would not be considered so shameful in the eyes of those couples.
Does your partner love you? Do you love that person? Can you imagine life without that person? Is that person your best friend, too? Do you share the same dreams of the future?
You have some soul searching to do. Also, don't feel like you are being shallow for having doubts because of the sex. That's a big, BIG part of marriage. No one should blame you if you decided you couldn't handle lousy sex. Someone may say so, but no.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-24 03:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been trying to help him get "better"? Maybe it will just take more time. If not... if it's really not good sex, you probably won't be happy for the long haul. Sex is a very important part of a marriage. You're talking "the rest of your life!" So don't settle, just because he's a nice person. I'm not saying give up on him, I'm just saying that if you're doomed to a life of no passion you won't be happy, and will most likely at some point go elsewhere for satisfaction. Only you can make this choice... good luck! :o)
2006-11-24 03:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell no!That's why I have sex early on in the relationship, to see if the sex is good, and if it,s not, then I wouldn't want to continue with it, let alone marry the guy. Sex is really important in a marriage, otherwise you will get bored and want to look for it somewhere else. You need passion in your life! Think about it.
2006-11-24 03:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by GreenEyedFox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no person somewhat thinkks it rather is undesirable to attend. yet i do no longer understand that. What if the intercourse isn't gratifying. Its kinda such as you wouldnt purchase a vehicle without attempt using it first. or purchase a shoe a length to small purely b/c you needed it. human beings do no longer wait because of the fact they get caught in a 2nd or somethins come over them. human beings dont positioned on purity jewelry b/c they are no longer organic. you're 13 years previous. and that i assumed the comparable element. Then I met my ex boyfriend and that i enjoyed him for purely approximately 3 years and by no ability as quickly as did i be apologetic approximately it like some human beings do.
2016-10-17 11:45:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no I wouldn't, because a good sex life is vital in a marriage. It's like having a beautiful home but no furniture. You get bored. But you add furniture a bit at a time you begin to enjoy the home. Just like marriage, you have to keep working on your sex life to spice it up. Try watching porn together and do things to him that you would want him to do to you.
Good Luck!
2006-11-24 03:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by maryjane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, dont bother. Sex is very important in a relationship. If you both can't have fun, than you will end up getting bored and cheat on him or divorce him any way. Save yourself a headache and just leave.
2006-11-24 03:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No -- not a chance ... will only end up in an affair ... not fair to other person.
If you have been trying to coach for several years and still nothing .... light is fading quickly on ability to be passionate.
2006-11-24 03:09:37 · answer #8 · answered by girlielikesfun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the sex is good then its 10% of a marriage.
If the sex is bad then its 90% of a marriage.
2006-11-24 03:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by DEBBY'S BABY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not do it for you need to have the intimacy without it a good marriage will not survive my hubby was a virgin and after yrs of him getting frustrated and me giving verbal well we didn't make it so I would let this person go for we didn't make it HUGS
2006-11-24 03:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋