potty training?

Question

my son is 3 years old and still he is in training pants he has no intentions at the mo in potty training he is just not intrested what can i do to get him in pants ive treid everything

Answer 1

Is he in training pants or pull ups? If pull-ups, then take them off and put true training pants on. Letting him feel he is wet will start to bother him. We used to put our son on the potty, give him his sippy cup full of water/juice and read books to him. Then when he finnaly peed, we made a big deal about it and gave him an "M&M". The candy made the big difference. You can use something else as a reward that he likes.

Answer 2

I completly understand your concern! My three year old son is finnaly taking the potty thing seriously. I tried bribes, I tried telling him "don't you want to be a big boy?" It just didn't work. Finaly I took away his pull ups and put him in underwear. I very gently but firmly explained that untill he started using the potty like a big boy he wouldn't be allowed on the couch. He loves his little plastic chairs but my saying no annoyed him so much he did it that day. Now when he get's up the first thing he does is go to the potty. I have a timer set and when it goes off he drops everything and runs for the bathroom! lol Also don't buy a little potty to start. Buy a potty seat that sits on the toilet and a stool. That way you don't struggle later between the two. Good luck and don't give up!

Answer 3

I went through the same thing with my daughter. I tried to push her into using her potty and that just totally backfired. There is really nothing that you can do to hurry up the process. Let him do it on his own time.

Let him sit around in a wet diaper longer, this is what prompted my daughter to go ahead and use the potty. She learned how to remove her diaper first, but sometimes I would put it back on her. She didn't like that, so she eventually began using her potty.

During this time, I didn't really say much about the potty, except when I was re-applying the old diaper.

Oh, believe me, I had a hard time doing this, but I was at a total loss for what to do. My son was the easiest child to train, but my daughter was a nightmare. I wish you luck. It will work out in the end.

Answer 4

I would get rid of the training pants - they are basically just like nappies, and wont feel any different to him, and they cost a lot of money. You have to set aside about a week for this. It's not a lot of fun, but it is worth it.

During that week, stay at home as much as possible (for your own sake), and put him in normal clothes. Make sure there is always a potty where he can see it, and explain what you want him to do. The first time he wets himself, he'll know about it, and wont like the feeling. Tell him he mustn't do it in his pants and sit him on the potty. Keep doing this. He will get the message eventually. Keep nappies on at night until the daytime is sorted, (or if you are really brave leave the nappies off at night too.)

I trained both my children this way, and they were dry day and night within a week. You just have to sacrifice a bit of time, but it is worth it. After the first couple of days of chasing him round with the potty he should have managed to get it in there at least once, and praise him like mad when he does. Make the biggest fuss of him ever. Look disappointed when he gets it wrong (but don't get angry). I think the effort here has to come from you. Children don't usually potty train themselves. You are going to have to be proactive here and make time for this.

Answer 5

I had trouble with my children also, I wanted to have them potty trained by 2 , and I did. I did what my mom-in-law told me to do, I was a little scared at first but I did it and it worked after 3 days. What I did I skipped over the training pants ans the pull ups, and went right to underwear. The first time I did this he got all sorts of praises told him he was a big boy and wearing big boy pants now and would have to let me know when he had to go. Of course, the first time he did wet himself and it bothered him. I 'm guessing that it was because he had regular underwear on and he could tell the diffrence. After that he did not like the feeling it gave him. He said he was wet and potted by accident, I told him that was fine. The next couple of days it was a challenge, but he did come around by the third day of training. He was going on his own, every time he had an urge, he would go. My advice, is to try this, now it does take a lot of effort on your part and a lot of patience. Because your son, is going to have to go alot to the bathroom even if he doesn't have to go. Try this, and Good Luck with him.

Answer 6

My sister has a 3 and 3 month year old girl and she is the same, she tried potty training her several times and each time she refused to go in the potty and just hid in corners and weed/pooed her pants until she got nappies back on again. My sister tried various methods, bribes, rewards, and books that promised to train her in a weekend. Nothing has worked so far. She is a perfectly normal child in every other respect apart from being shy.
So I really don't have an answer to your problem, just reassurance that he is not the only one who wont go in a potty at his age. It will happen eventually.

Answer 7

My son hated the potty, he found it so uncomfortable, what really helped me in training him was letting him use a toilet training seat. He felt so grown up every time he was sitting on it! At first it was only a game for him, I would stand there waiting for him to finish his business for ages until the time (probably for a coincidence) he did his number 2. I rewarded him with lots of hugs and kisses, games and did lots of clapping (more to my content than his). Since that day he was very exited to prove he could do it in the toilet. Had many accidents since, about two weeks of changing his pants a few times a day, until he found that if he wanted to stay dry and comfortable he had to tell me when his had to go.
All I can say is you have to be very patient and sure he is ready. Good luck

Answer 8

Is Your Child Ready for Potty Training?

According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, toilet training depends on a child’s readiness, not his or her age. "Potty Pro" Teri Crane offers this quiz to help parents determine when their child is ready:

1) Does your child relate to and imitate older children?
2) Can your child safely walk to and from the toilet?
3) Is your child starting to understand where his or her toys and other possessions belong?
4) Is the number of times your child says "no" or responds negatively decreasing?
5) Is your child interested in trying to do things by him or her self?
6) Does your child know that some of her peers are successfully using the potty?
7) Can your child understand what you mean by "using the potty" and "no more diapers," and can he or she talk about this with you?
8) Is your child’s diaper staying dry longer?
9) Does your child frequently wake up with a dry diaper?
10) Is your child stopping play to squat for a bowel movement?

Scoring: One point for each "YES" answer

8-10 points: Your child is probably ready to begin potty training
5-7 points: Wait a month and take the quiz again
1-4 points: You have some time. Wait a few months and retake the quiz

According to the Children’s Hospital Guide to Your Child’s Health and Development, 40 percent of 3 year olds still use diapers. Potty training requires calm, time, attention, and readiness, not a magic point on the calendar.
Teri Crane is known as the "Potty Pro" to the thousands of parents, teachers and childcare providers who have gone through her Potty Training Boot Camp.

Answer 9

All children are different.. Mine learned early at 2. Is your child in a daycare or preschool setting? If not maybe sending him may help him along to see the other boys doing it.. maybe also let him choose his new big boy pants.. I wouldn't worry though.. they all come around to do it at some point. It really is there choice.. maybe make it less an issue. i wish you luck.. but remember alot of praise truly will always work.. children at that age live for praise.. Also when he does make progress.. if an accident occurs do not punish.. make as lil fuss as possible otherwise he may get discouraged..

Answer 10

My son didn't care either. We put him on the toilet - even through his screaming and protesting - gave him things to do and waited until he peed. When he made a teeny bit, we actually had a "potty parade" around the house. We clapped our hands and sang about big boys going potty. That really helped to change his perception on going on the toilet vs. a diaper/pull up.