I broke up with my boyfriend about three months ago because he cancelled our date 3 times. (he said he was busy). I said very bad things to him and I know I made a mistake. I handled the situation wrong . He talked to me after that and I apologized to him, but a week later he decided not to talk to me anymore because he couldn't get over what I had done. So we stopped talking, but it's been really hard on me. I've realized that what I did was wrong and I want him back now. I talked to him a few days ago and I was waiting for him to say that he wants me back but he didn't say anything. He said there are better guys for me out there! He mentioned that "I was the one who broke up with him and he didn't do anything wrong". He already knows that I am sorry and I still have feelings for him.Please give me some advice. (I am 27 and he is 37).
2006-11-24 02:44:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not knowing the whole situation I can only guess that there may have been more to this than what you've briefly outlined... Perhaps he was cooling to the idea of being in a relationship with you and this was an 'easy-out' sort of deal...
Unfortunatly I don't think that you are going to win him back... He's evidently hurt by what happened and still sore at you over the whole thing. Mistakes are sadly made, and sometimes despite our best apologies there is nothing we can do to make up for our wrongs...
You also have to remember that he is ten years older than you, and therefore he has different needs, wants, and priorities in his life... This again goes along the lines with the posibility that he was looking for a way to end the relationship without serriously hurting you
My best advice is to forget him... I know that it will be hard to do, but with time even the deepest of wounds heal... See this as a life long lesson of what not to do in a relationship... With that in mind toss your line back in the water and when your ready, try try again.
2006-11-24 02:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by C.G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I don't think this guy cares anything about you, if you have recognized that you made a mistake and apologized and he accepted it. Although It seems he can't make up his mind what he wants to do, and it is causing confusion between the both of you, and you don't need that kind of drama in your life. The only thing to do now is move since he obviouly does not want to have anything to do with you. As for all the busy talk it could be a couple of things one he is really busy and does not have time to get back to you or he is playing you and you would never know it. Maybe you should date someone more in your age group which I know does not sound like much but it might give you a start on what you want in a guy and find someone who shares similar interests. Although I don't think it matter what age he is as long as he is not too old.
2006-11-24 03:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that that if you have showed him that you are sorry and you know that you made a mistake and he still wont forgive you for it, then you need to move on. Because that usually means that every time you make a mistake in your relationship he will hold it against you and nobody deserves that. This is gods way of letting you out of what would have been a relationship that you would have had to work to hard at to make it work. You will see that when you find someone else that you have feelings for.
2006-11-24 02:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you apologizing and chasing this loser? You had a fight and now you're sorry, oh well, Now he'll dog you for the rest of your life. stop apologizing and begging him to take you back, move on. I;m sure there are pleanty of guys out there that would love to spend time with you unconditionally. he's probably already with another woman. Don't let him control you. Move on
2006-11-24 02:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex-borfriend is hurting and he has decided to hurt you back. That said, you apologised and he's not accepting it. At his age, and yours for that matter, it is time to do some serious maturing. If he won't accept your apology move on. If oyu keep grovelling like this he will lose interest even quicker. If he wants you back he will ask. If not, you are better off without him.
2006-11-24 02:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was dating a girl for a few wekks and she left me hanging 2 times in a row. I didn't call her with abuse or "blame" her. I simply deleted all of her numbers from my phones and moved on. She never called again, so good luck to her.
2006-11-24 02:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has some feelings for you to but still made at what you did. You have to show him your sorry not tell him and if he does still have feelings for you he will realize you are truly truly sorry. if that dose not work I'm afraid it is over and you should move on.
2006-11-24 02:53:48 · answer #7 · answered by doggygm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him back. Call him, get wit him, show him that you want him. If you can't or won't do that, maybe he was right. Maybe there is somebody out here who is better for you. Maybe somebody who would grovel and all that stuff.
2006-11-24 02:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did what you COULD do and ya boy is right, there's someone out there that's better for you. yeah it'll be hard for you in the beginning but it'll all be worth it in the end.
2006-11-24 02:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by *!!HAiTiAN PRiNC3SS!!* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get on with your life and learn from the mistake you made!
2006-11-24 02:46:31 · answer #10 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋