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Is it over? (Ladies only)?
Last weekend, I took a girl out and we just had it simple, coffee place, talked and she pretty much told me alot about herself and talked a little more than I did. She stressed she liked being in control of situations but I gathered she had an interst in me. Anyways she wanted me to call her when I got home which I did and then I called her again that week to ask her for a second date.

I ended up leaving a voice message. I left the ball in her court and I haven't heard from her since, and this was Monday. Is something wrong?

BTW, I im'd her this morning and we had a light convo then I had to get going to start doing some errands. I didn't mentioned I called her, I just said hi and asked how she was doing.

Should i Just wait for her?

2006-11-24 02:40:00 · 20 answers · asked by heymanchase 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

20 answers

wouldnt worry about it, keep moving on with your life. If you continue to call her more, she will just get really annoyed. I wouldnt want a chick who likes to be in control of situations any way. That just translates to me as 'control freak.' I would watch it with that one. Good Luck!

2006-11-24 02:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 0 0

You have two choices here...

A) Call her again, or talk to her over IM'ing... This will either end in another date, or her telling you that she isn't interested in you... The downside to this is if you keep bugging her time and again she will probably get fed up and tell you to shove off... If you're going to talk to her, don't bring up anything about a date for a while.. Keep it simple conversation... If you think things are going well, then politely ask her if she wants to continue the conversation over coffee (Coffee is NOT a date, its simply a place to get to know someone before you date, making it the ideal thing to do in a situation like this)

B) Wait for her to call, or make the first move... The downside to this is that you may be waiting forever... However, on the flip side she may just be really really busy at the moment, so waiting might be the better option... It all depends on the situation

When all else fails, there are plentity of fish in the sea. and trust me, chances are you'll find one

2006-11-24 02:45:42 · answer #2 · answered by C.G 2 · 0 0

She seems like she may not be your type. She seemed a bit too clingy in the beginning, and is now playing hard to get. So play hard to get back. Go on a couple dates/hang out with some female friends. It doesn't have to be out of romantic interest- just to have a good time, with someone whose company you enjoy. Once she sees that you aren't waiting around for her, maybe she'll see what a fun, great person you could be.

2006-11-24 02:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by kl__ 3 · 0 0

If she didn't mention your message she might not have recieved it. I would leave one more and just say I don't know if u got my message the other day but would u like to do something this weekend? If she doesn't reply to that or she seems distant or full of excuses why she can't, then I would definately back off because that means she is not interested.

2006-11-24 02:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by Amber 6 · 0 0

Honestly, Move on. If she liked you she would have called by now. If she told you that she likes to be in control it may seem that she may want someone to slow her role down a little. It comes down to head games. Are you willing to deal with that. I hate games and people that feel they need them. Move on your probably better off. Who needs drama.

2006-11-24 02:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by esanju20022002 2 · 0 0

I'd say she's either waiting it out, or just doesn't check her messages.

I'd say she is just waiting and thinking, from what it seems she probably likes you alot, but you have to be patient and don't dog her about it.

Maybe remind her during your next conversation.

Good Luck.

xoxo
Maddi

2006-11-24 02:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by M A D D i K i N S ♥ 1 · 0 0

I have friends who were VERY hesitant about dating a guy, but the guy persisted (non-creepy way, of course) and now they are married! it's not "over", but it sounds like you do have a challenge ahead of you. keep in touch with her, she'll get to know you that way. keep asking her out every few weeks or months. you'll see what happens.

2006-11-24 03:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0 0

the way it sounds is that its over. She probably thought since you didn't talk much you weren't really a person who is in control much or something and she didn't like that. Sorry but it is over.

2006-11-24 02:47:37 · answer #8 · answered by doggygm 2 · 0 0

Sorry, but I think she is not interested. Maybe she is afraid of a normal relationship and was looking for something just for fun.

2006-11-24 02:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by ginger13 4 · 0 0

I think she may not be interested.. Leave it up to her to contact you at this point.. She did say she liked to be in control. right.. give it to her.. if she doesn't call then i would move on!

2006-11-24 02:43:39 · answer #10 · answered by GirlWithQuestions 4 · 0 0

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