I am a 35 yr old single mom with a 10 yr old girl,and I have my Mother living with me because of her health,andthis Thanksgiving,my daughters friend asked if she could spend the night(we had no relatives coming over,just a small dinner for 3) plus her Dad was sick and her Mom had to work til 3 Thanksgiving day,so I saw no problem...more to help with cooking!
My mother locked herself in her room,I asked her what the problem was and she stated she wanted NO ONE over for that day...well..that day came and went,we all had fun making dinner..the kids were VERY helpful...they even went home to check on the friend's Dad (He had a yukky cold)...and even when I offered her a hearty plate of food..she let it sit and touched nothing(So my dog got a great feast)and even this morning..she would'nt say a word...did I do something wrong? I think it was absolutley childish behavior...but she is still giving me the silent treatment just because I had a classmate come over for some fun....
2006-11-24 02:01:26 · 12 answers · asked by IM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You did the right thing. Someone else has issues.
2006-11-24 02:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by G-Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything wrong, but you did make a 10 year old little girl very happy so you should be very happy about that. I'm not too sure what made your mum so unhappy, but I think that you should have a word with her and find out if there is anything else that matter, because surely she would just get upset because you invited over your friends daughter.
However if she doesn't want to talk don't force the issue and maybe eventually she will come and talk to you all the whole event will just be forgotten.
However don't dwell on it and just get on with things
2006-11-24 02:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother was very sick two years ago and lived with us the last 3 months of her life until she went to the hospital and passed on. Holidays were never that great for her. Someone or something always seemed to suck the joy right out of her. Even when she came out of her coma and i fought hospice to keep her alive she woke up and told me she wanted to die. I don't think you did anything wrong. You cant please everyone no matter what they expect from you. I wouldn't feel guilty either. I'm sure you love her and that should be enough. I think you did the right thing.
2006-11-24 02:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by Stretch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless this is standard behavior for her, it sounds like something else is going on with your Mom, and she just acted out. Once things calm down and she's acting more normally, you might want to approach her to find out what's what. If she normally acts this way when things don't go as she thinks they should, then I wouldn't worry about it. You did nothing wrong. Thanksgiving is a time for family and friends, and for remembering just how blessed we are.
2006-11-24 02:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything wrong. People that age are prone to depression and in fact many are already under antidepressant medication. It's part of the aging process so we just have to be more patient and understanding. It will pass, you'll see, but of course there will always be times when she would behave quite weird and you don't have a clue why.
2006-11-24 02:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by karen s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong.....
You celebrated the meaning of Thanksgiving and with heart.
You tried to include her and you did more than go out of your way.
Such a shame your mother put a cloud over such a beautiful day.
and.....
Your friend is very lucky to have you!
Best wishes
2006-11-24 02:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell he EXACTLY how you feel. And let her keep sulking in her room! She's only punishing herself for being such a *********.
Dont let her get away with that behavior...
Its your house and she needs to respect the fact thats its your home, and she's lucky you allow her to stay after ruining your thanksgiving!
Tell her she needs to remember that its your home, and she has no right to disrespect you that way.
2006-11-24 02:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by multipure417278 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you are good enough to take care of her in her ailing health.Alot of people put thier parents in rest homes when they get older.Maybe your mother needs to see a doctor about her depression problem.Tell her that you and your kids have another life besides her.
2006-11-24 02:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do now not be conscious of what's incorrect along with her yet possibly you have a talk along with her and tell her which you're searching for for a job and as quickly as you're able to have adequate money to you will help her out financially, because of the fact you do have fun with all the issues that she is doing for you. notwithstanding you do now not purely like the actuality that she says terrible issues to you and approximately your little ones pals. Say to her which you be conscious of that she would somewhat which you had your individual place, yet you're engaged on it, and you adore her for her bearing with you. You by no capacity be conscious of which would be what she desires to pay attention. hiya its nicely worth a attempt. yet in spite of you do do now not reason a controversy because of the fact in case you so she would say which you're ungrateful because of the actuality that she helps you out
2016-12-17 15:30:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it's a good thing you don't think the same way she does when it comes to "I want NO ONE over." Where would she be living if you had that type of attitude?
Your house, your rules. Simple as that.
2006-11-24 02:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did what was right. you mom sounds like a bitter crotchety old woman who is set in her ways. sorry to say. helping people is what Thanksgiving is all about.
2006-11-24 02:05:19 · answer #11 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋