Question for singles without children?

Question

I was speaking to a girl-friend the other day about dating. She is recently married, however, she stated to me that when she was dating - she could not date someone who already had children. "I don't see how you do it, especially since you don't have kids.." she said to me.

So, my question is, does the thought of dating someone with children scare you off?

Answer 1

If the person was widowed I would not have a problem dating him. Otherwise I would run in the opposite direction. There are too many people in the world than to settle for a person with so much baggage. Besides some one who has kids and is not with the child's mom probably has huge issues. Ether they don't make good choices in mates or does not want to work through the tough times. Who wants to be stuck with such a person.

Answer 2

Yes it does scare me. There are two reasons for this:

1.Almost every mother (single or not) that I ever met is a person that has no business being a parent. They either allow their kids to get away with everything and anything, or they constantly scream at them. I don’t need that headache.

2.I alone make about twice the national average family income in the USA. Any single mother has a vested interest in dating me. I have to be aware of this.

Answer 3

Hi,

I think it depends on your orientation. And also it is not good to date someone with children cos it will surely bounds back at you, you might not know it might be your husband or you and it can break your relationship.

So i don't really subscribe to it at all.
Just go ahead and date a single like you from there you will learn a lot and develop your self for the live ahead. Relationship does not stops in dating. dating is only a period of learning nad studying.

Thanks

Answer 4

yes because when u get into a relationship with with this guy u signed up for him, child and the childs mother. 110% chance u r going to fall in love with the kid. At some point u mayhave a face to face with the mother (lets hope that she doesnt mind another woman around her child some woman r like that). In your relationship there will be some things that you may want to do and he wont be able to because its his week to get the kid, or kid id sick so the plans u guys just made have been cancelled. If it is a child that u guys had together u will be more intune with the child and the needs. Thats just my opinion

Answer 5

I'm single now, my child is grown and in college. I would not have a issue with dating a woman with a child, or two. The trick is to know that she is worth the effort in getting to know her, children can be a true blessing, but they must be respected. Don't ever push yourself on a child or try too hard to make a friend out of them, that's up to the actual parent to facilitate.

Answer 6

no not at all cause you accept a person with kids and all . Now I did stop dating someone because of his child's ill behavior he spat on someone while we were at the beach . I told the lady I was sorry but he was not my child and could do nothing to repremand him . then we were at the park and he called someone a name and said well that is what my mom said to someone and it is okay . His father thought nothing of his bad behavior and I told him I ;could not date him any more his response was "love me love my child" . Nope could not do it. good luck and god bless and happy holidays.

Answer 7

i don't think it has any relevancy's having children, you fall in love with people because of them, not what comes with them, so the answer is yes i would, but the only thing that would scare me is whether the kids liked me or not, I think your friend is a little naive really and as never really love someone properly.. love is meant to be unconditional..

Answer 8

it does scare me off... not because i dont like children but there are usually lots of issues with the kid's father that i dont want to deal with- jealousy and sabotage can come into play. im not saying that it is a definite deal breaker because sometimes you are just so attracted to a person that it doesnt matter but it is something i watch out for.

Answer 9

No. I think that woman who have had children are sometimes more mature in how they deal with lifes issues. Men can be that way also. Besides why limit yourself when it comes to dating. I guess the next question would be "Why did you pass up the love of your life just because he/she had kids???"

Answer 10

not fair here..
asking this of only single people..
but it is a good one, and I say it is OK ...
but the question here would be..does either one of this new dating thing want more children?
and will she say yes she does...?
if she has some, will she say yes I want more....?

me ..more the merrier..

smile
good luck