My boyfriend now which i have been with for 3yr has no job and no drive to get one. a friend of mine just recently told me he has been in love with me for a few years HE is rich and knows what he wants in life.... i dont know if i feel the same way about i him so what is it love or money
2006-11-24 01:23:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you have tied your star to a sinking ship with a bf of 3 years with no job and no ambition in life. While I don't believe money can buy you love, it sure can't hurt to have it, money and love I mean. So while another friend with money may not be blowing your skirt up, you might want to reconsider your criteria for a potential mate. Personally, I have no qualms about making money or lack of it an issue for a relationship, as lets face it, money or the lack of it, can create havoc in a relationship if not dealt with properly. A man with no ambition? I'm sorry, I wouldn't give him the time of day! Not because he had no money, but because I don't need a stinking deadbeat in my life eating and sleeping on my dime. No KF's for me! As to rich and wonderful, well, I might not fall for him just because he had money, but I might give him the time of day and see if my heart agreed with my mind that he was a worthy canidate for BF status. If not, I wouldn't hang onto him just because of money, but I sure would have a lot more respect for him being ambitious and working than I would have for the layabout. As a dear friend said to me once, it just as easy to love a rich man as a poor man, so why bother fooling around with deadbeats? Once I cleared them from my list of potentials, the troubles in my life were lessened. WOW! This wasn't hard at all! You would go after the job with $5.50 an hour if you could get the $20 an hour job would you? NO! So why go after the loser? Doesn't make sense, but many women make that mistake and live the rest of their lives, having themselves, their future children and grandchildren suffer fron deadbeat men in their life. For no good reason other than they thought that having money was somehow wrong. There is nothing wrong with it anymore than liking tall dark and handsome, or short and sweet, or blue eyes. Its just what it is a preference. And my dear, I prefer to do better in my life, and I prefer someone who has that same ideal. Think about it and good luck!
2006-11-24 01:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love is what makes the world go round. But you really do have to sit back and think for a minute. You have to have money to survive, and do you really have a future with your boyfriend, if you are always going to have to be supporting him, because he is to lazy to get up and get a job of his own. And your friend that is rich, if you get with him just for the money and have no feelings for him like that, you will be totally miserable, because money will not make you happy. If I was you I would leave both of them and find some one that has a job and cares about you and you care for them back, and that will support you instead of the other way around.
2006-11-24 01:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by **baby~doll** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is some a human being a life living somebody. money is not love. money is paper. it has no value in love. it has a meaning of spending the things you like. Love is something that is a nice sensation which you really cant get from money if you look deep into your heart.
2016-05-22 22:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you asked the right question. It's not a choice between love and money. Your current boyfriend has no job and no drive to get one? That's more than lack of money. That's a lack of accepting responsibility for oneself, for making his own way in the world. He's not being a man, he's being a child.
I don't measure success by the amount of money one makes, or how much they have in the bank, but by their attitude, their approach to life, etc.
Your choice then, would be between a man acting as a boy, and a man acting as a man.
Good luck.
2006-11-24 01:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case, money. You at least LIKE the rich guy, you've been friends for years. See if it can turn into love.
You probably don't really love the jobless guy, or you wouldn't even be asking the question!
2006-11-24 02:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
decide if you are happy with your boyfriend if not why not either fix it or get out. Don't jump from one before you have finished with the other. Love...money only you know, it cant be just the money you must like him a bit...
2006-11-24 01:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had no job and was TRYING....stick it out and build something together, no job + no effort + no future. Move on.
As for Mr. Money bags, he needs to get in line w/ everyone else. There is more to life than money. Take your time...and find someone right for you
2006-11-24 01:38:35 · answer #7 · answered by Lewis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That may not be the choice. What is it about a guy who has no drive, no job, and apparently no prospects that you like? This isn't a real choice is it? It's a slam dunk.
2006-11-24 01:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd take the friend. Not because he has money, but because he has ambition. I wouldn't be able to stand a guy who just sits around with no desire to get anywhere.
2006-11-24 03:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think very hard.. most of the time do you think about your bf or the guy that just said he loves you. if they were to both get hurt, who would you be most worried about?
never leave the one you love for the one you like. because in the end the one you like will leave you for the one they love.
2006-11-24 01:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by Megan28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋