Every time I am attracted to someone that I don't know. I always have the fear of rejection holding me back from asking someone out why is this. I mean all you want to ask is their name and if their single and would be interested in going some where we can talk to get to know each other. I mean why is it so hard to ask someone that when you are attracted to someone.
2006-11-24 01:23:13 · 16 answers · asked by RIP 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have the same problem but my friend is quite forward and she is rubbing off on me. If you know the person may be interested in you then make the move. No one likes rejection but you just have to be confident in YOURSELF, thats the first thing to work on.
2006-11-24 01:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by Mistress_T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but there isn't any good way to get over this fear.
Actually there is a way of getting over it. You just have to ask enough women out, and get told NO a few times before you realize that the world does not open up and swallow you, and other than hearing NO there is nothing else that happens. Most women are very good at rejecting a guy and making you not feel so bad about it too. The most important thing to remember is that they either say YES, or NO. Anything other than a YES means NO. With the one exception being if they are busy and make an attempt to reschedule at a definite other date. If they just say they are too busy and make no effort of reschedule, then that's a NO
2006-11-24 01:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by bigbadwolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its perfectly normal to be scared of rejection. Chill.
The thing is you cant hold back from someone or you'll never be truly happy. Maybe you need to speak to someone as this fear is obviously holding you back and paralising you.
I was scared of trusting someone for years after a horrible experience when I was a teenager, but, once I realised that the worst had happened and I was still alive, stronger than ever and had overcome the situation then I found I could trust a guy again. Its all about taking a leap of faith. Good luck.
2006-11-24 01:35:03 · answer #3 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure it's possible to completely overcome the fear of rejection. What you have to weigh is whether or not the 'possibilty' of a positive answer is enough for you to go through a rejection.
But think of it this way, if you don't ask the question, the answer is ALWAYS 'no'. If you do ask the question, you may have a 10% chance of getting a 'yes'. No one can say yes to a question they've never received.
The question is, would you rather take the 10% chance, or 0% chance? Only you can make that decision for yourself.
2006-11-24 01:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you asked someone out that is a normal feeling. you aren't alone. But to see if the person likes you have to try. If you don't you will never get that person to go out with you. Listen you have to get over your fear of rejection if you want someone to go out with you. It is not that bad to be rejected I have many times it hurts for a minute but then you see another person you like and you are right back on the run
2006-11-24 01:29:17 · answer #5 · answered by kingdomhearts_rulz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you've said, I can observe that the problem is NOT in asking someone out. Rather, the problem lies in your inability to trust any guy in a relationship. This is probably cos either you or someone very dear to you had suffered a disappointment in the past. But I want to tell you that life must go on. The only thing is that you should take it cool when you're starting the next relationship - never you give an impression that you're either a desperado or frustrated to the extent that your guy will capitalize on this. Contact me through my profile for further discussions. cya.
2006-11-24 01:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to face ur fear to be a strong man. if u find a girl attractive and u wanna ask her out, just go to her and make frnds with her then find ways to ask her out. If she says no, maybe she's got a reason for that. Dont give up but try again. Remember that a loser is someone that doesn't try to make things work.
Face ur fear-------that makes u a strong man.
Gudluck
2006-11-24 01:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by teemah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to grab the bull by the horns and go for it.
What is so scary about rejection??
It won't kill you!!
You are denying yourself a chance of happiness if you let the fear stop you.
We all get rejected from time to time, its not just you!1
FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY, OR LIVE A LONELY LIFE - ITS UP TO TOU
Good Luck!!
2006-11-24 01:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by Ali 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go into town with a few friends and start talking to girls, if you get knocked back go onto another, and another, and another.
There is a point at where you realise that talking to more and more people increases you persoanal skills and gives you a thicker skin.
Don't enter each conversation with a view to it ending in a relationship, just chat then back off untill your confident with what your saying.
It really is practise makes perfect and eventually you'll not be too fussed when someone says no thanks.
2006-11-24 01:30:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same fear of rejection as you, but now I just go up to them and ask them. If they say no, I just tell them to drop their standards a little just as I did by asking them!!!!
2006-11-24 02:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋