There is this handsome man that I have been working around in the last four months and when I first started working at my job I did not pay him any attention at all. For some odd reason he started talking to me, offering to drive me home from work. At first I said no, but he wouldnt leave me alone, now he drives me home everyday. He comes off different to me because he took his time with everything such as hugging, kissing etc.., But now its been three months since all of this and the only time I see or speak to this guy is at work, or once every other week after work we may stop by his house, we have not yet to go on a date. So I asked him yesturday is it just a sex thing with us? Do you think I am wrong for asking him this question?
2006-11-24 01:10:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Asking him was the best thing you could do.
But dont you think its best to satisfy yourself before him?
I mean do not wait for him, if he doesn't make a move then simply move on to someone who will.
Its all about self satisfaction, or you'll be stressed forever!!!!
GOOD LUCK
2006-11-24 01:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking whether or not you are wrong for wanting more, then the answer is YES.
Why do you expect him to re-lay the foundation of your relationship now? The concrete was poured three months ago. Think of entering a relationship as though you were designing your dream house, or bungalow on the beach, etc... You know, ahead of time, what it looks like, how big it is, and how much you are willing to invest. If you wanted a bedroom AND an entertainment room, then you should have told him that four months ago when he was prepping the landscape. I'm willing to bet that he is thinking that you are satisfied with that one room shack the two of you built.
Now, you are asking him to expand your relationship. Why should he?
Then again, we DO make the bed that we sleep in. He may be looking forward to strengthening the bonds of your relationship. It's obviously a sex thang right now. Make it a sex and date thang, if that's what you want. He doesn't sound like a mind-reader. And you can't see past his obvious exterior. Either, put him to task, or lay there and take it.
2006-11-24 10:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let me understand. You are having sex with him but not relationship other than in the sack? No, you are not wrong for asking the question but I'd ask you what you get out of the relationship? If you like the sex without a real connection, keep doing what you are doing. He apparently likes the relationship as it is and that's how you understand him because that's how I understand him.
2006-11-24 09:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Originally it all started as a colleague to another lady colleague(nobody minds going a little further for a lady!!) but now I think his intentions have left the platonic level to a little of sexual love. But he is decnt and gentle manly and wants you to understand him and propose first He should be an introvertwho suddenly becomes a total extrovert to you. I am glad that he has so far not faltered his steps with you.Now you decide and act!!!
2006-11-24 09:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot explain the guy ...but by asking him, you may find your answer. If you are having sex with this man I see no reason not to ask him just about anything you want to know. I also wonder if you have not gotten close enough to him to talk about this, maybe it is just a sex thing for you as well.
2006-11-24 09:16:07 · answer #5 · answered by lindazgardner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's what you've been doing. You cheapened yourself. I know I'm being blunt, but he sees now that you might be nothing more than a booty call. Just ask him straight out now what he really wants in this relationship. It's only my opinion.
2006-11-24 09:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by warhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT?!?!? of course you have a right to ask!!!! and if he doesnt start treating you as more than just a "work booty call" get another lift home and totally ignore him for ever more...dont LET yourself be mis treated girl!
2006-11-24 09:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
know u werent wrong if thats what is bothering you u should get an answer.thats the only way u can get some understanding of what kind of relationship u guys r having.
2006-11-24 09:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by lilcharm7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. U shud first understand his intentions before falling in love.
2006-11-24 09:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by Steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u where wrong 4 asking him
2006-11-24 09:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋