My mother in law is an elderly woman that lives with us. She is very loving and kind and we get along well but she still washes my husband everyday.
Every morning before he gets up to go to work she gives him his shower and dresses him to make sure he is neat and clean.
And when he comes home from work in the evening she gives him a bath and fixes him a warm glass of milk and cookies.
We have been married for 15 years and this has been going on from day one.
I have tried talking to him about it but he likes the attention and says that his mom is just doing her job.
Help please I don't my mother in law bathing my husband anymore. Is there anything I can do to stop this??
2006-11-24 01:07:19 · 30 answers · asked by mamabag06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know some people may be having a problem that this is reality, but my "ex" husbands mother did this with him also. To say the least it was creepy. He was in his late 20's when we divorced and she was still bathing him. I am not one for keeping anything in so I told them they were psychologically impaired. My uncle is a psychologist and he told me it really is a disorder called "Oedipus complex". Not sure about the spelling.
Get out of this relationship immediately!!!!
2006-11-24 01:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by stacey h 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
U accepted it from day #1 by ur own admission, 15 yrs. later u r finally fed up with it? Unconcievable U just want something else to b-i-t-c-h at ur husband for. I can't see why he is still being showered and dressed by his mother in the first place but u accepted that arragnement from the beginning it is much too late to complain about it, live with it or divorce him point and simple. U said she is elderly so I don't suspect any hanky panky, I do see an oeverly possesive parent who definitly knew no boundaries and a submissive wife who is tired of the attention her husband is recieving from his loving mother even still. U seem a little bit jealous of their relationship and r looking for a way to justify ur feelings of messing it up for him. Isn't his pleasures ur pleasures? Ask her to baste some of that attention on u too. U might love the attention and it's probably their time for sharing family concerns or secrets. In either case it's much too late to stop it anyway she is elderly and won't be around much longer or u should hope not.
2006-11-24 09:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It seems neither your husband nor his mother has realized that they are grown up. More so with your mother-in-law. I think your husband is tolerating these childish chores as his mother is still not developed mentally and does not want to husrt her.You should have tried to put a stop to it soon after marraige but you didnt.Anyway, since you have faced it all these 15 years, why not tolerate it a little more?
2006-11-24 09:35:06 · answer #3 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 15 years, I'm so surprised you're still willing to put up with this nonsense. I strongly recommend the three of you each get some sort of counseling.
2006-11-24 10:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humm is your sister-in-law also your husband ex-wife or is your brother in law a former boyfrioend of your husbands aunt
I really don;t think there is anyting wrong with this it is a mothers job to care for her son. Leave the bee
2006-11-24 09:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Cherry Berry 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Be prepared , when she dies, guess who will take over the babying responsibilities. Your "husband" never grew up, his mother stifled his development and you will not change anything because for or one thing he doesn't want to. He "likes" the attention and she is "doing her job?" You might as well divorce this big baby or you're going to end up taking over "HER JOB" when she croaks. They both need thearpy..
2006-11-24 09:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well this is one for the Psychiatric class that's for sure. that's for sure! You have been putting up with this for 15 years? This is about as sick as they come All three of you need help.
2006-11-24 09:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is crippled or something is wrong mentally, this is REALLY weird. And you're just as weird for allowing this to happen for years. Maybe you should give this ''couple'' their space. I answered before reading your other questions you're making this stuff up.
2006-11-24 09:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL - nothing like good clean family fun. Why don't the 3 of you get in the shower together?
2006-11-24 10:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe this. You husband should have his own privacy and should say no to his mother on his own accord. I find this very ridiculous. Is it true?
2006-11-24 09:21:57 · answer #10 · answered by Cutebunny 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋