Okay, he is in the process of a divorce. We became friends with benefits - but then he called it off until everything is final because he felt guilty. He said "god knows what is in my heart and what is in your heart, but that still doesn't make it right.." he says that he needs to push me away for MY sake (baby mama drama with his ex) and HIS sake.
So, we called off the benefits, started getting to be closer friends and I started having feelings.
Now he says that I have no chance in hell of being anything other than friends with him.
I don't think he was using me, because we hung out without having sex.
What the hell happened? I'm completely lost. Does he like me and is scared? Why did he rule me out?
2006-11-24 00:51:39 · 7 answers · asked by lickablecake123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry to say that he did, in fact, use you. You were the girl he used to get over his ex. You were the one who came in handy for the sex and talk. Now he is doing better and the divorce is closer. He will be looking around for someone different. No, he did not get scared because he liked you. He is now mentally ready to go out and chase other women. I hate to be rude, but he simply was using you as a diversion from his failed marriage.
2006-11-24 00:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have his eye on someone else and did not want to hurt your feelings. The thing with men is that sometimes they do not know a good thing when it is sitting in their face until it has moved on and no longer wants to sit pretty. Don't let your feelings for him get too strong, it will only hurt you in the long run. Just ask him if there is someone else that he has an interest in or if he pulled away from you because of the baby mama drama and he did not want anything to happen to you. The ex may be crazy and that is why he pulled away. Communicate with him. It is the only way to find out.
2006-11-24 00:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by sexceeladie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have been played by a player so what are you confused about.The man was married with kids,he's your everyday ordinary adulterer,of course you probably already knew that in your heart.Get over it but don't make the same mistake.Oh by the way don't even consider being that jerks friend!
2006-11-24 01:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by willieearlramon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first rule to self respect is to stay away from married men period. whether or not he "SAYS" he is in a divorce. Chances are you are only a rebound, or he has gone back to his wife and forgott to tell you. either way as a respect for women kind stay away from married men. Remember...what goes around comes around and one day you may be the "wife" and you won't take kindly to another woman no matter the situation.
2006-11-24 01:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's going through a difficult time, and doesn't want to string you along. Give him time, and see what happens.
2006-11-24 00:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its possible that he still likes you. but it is also possible that he is having problem with his moral issues. so just wait for him. or you may want to hangout with singles instead.
2006-11-24 00:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by Grasshopper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's found someone else.
2006-11-24 00:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋