my 14 year old half brother is having anger problems. our dad committed suicide at xmas 2 years ago and he's gone a little bit off the rails. first he ran away, called my step mum a sl*t and threw a chair at a pregnant teacher. it is so unlike him and it makes me so sad. he started settling after my stepmum finally spoke to him about how our dad died and gave him some answers. not too long after she went on holiday and brought back a young italian bloke, they are still together after a year even though he's just had to fly home due to unemployment. my other half brother has moved out at 16 , i think he hates her and my little half sister just fights with my half brother all the time. when i visited at the weekend i witnessed my stepmum hit my half brother for giving cheek, and it werent just a slap. i was so upset i had to leave, i told her he needs counselling but she wont listen, i've moved 200 miles away recently so feel really sad and useless, what should i do?
2006-11-24 00:48:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh what a difficult situation you're in. Interfere too much and you may end up alienating your step mother and not being able to help at all. Don't interfere and you may feel responsible if the situation spirals out of control. This poor young man does sound like he's in serious need of counselling, quite likely your step mother does too, it can't be easy dealing with the suicide of a spouse, but perhaps she's not ready to accept it yet. Have you tried speaking to your half brother. Just to let him know you understand things are difficult for him and you are there for him if he needs to talk? 14 is a difficult enough age without any extra problems.
The whole family clearly need help. They are lucky to have someone like you looking out for them.
Good luck
2006-11-24 01:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not an expert,
I had a neighbour with a similar situation,
your brother may need to have older males whom he can talk to.
I used to bring my neighbours son to work with me at weekends(construction).He could talk to other men during the day,ask their advice regarding girls etc.whilst there he would have a laugh and a joke with his work mates.
In a way I suppose he was being "counselled".without the stigma of receiving "help"
It seems to have worked.
2006-11-24 01:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he definitely needs some bereavement counselling, have you got a grandparent you could speak to about this as you seem to be taking everything on yourself and its not fair - I hope things get sorted out call child line if you think she is abusing him, at least it is someone who can give you professional advice and someone else to talk to. good luck hope all works out well.
2006-11-24 00:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by darkhorse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He definitely needs counseling.
2006-11-24 00:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nah, you sound like a normal typical family to me. just carry on as normal and your problems will fade away. you could take up alcohol - then all your problems will disappear
2006-11-24 01:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by em_bob123 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋