We have been togather for almost a year now and we r planning a wedding soon i was gonna ask her to marry me in the spring now i dont know.
2006-11-24 00:46:18 · 34 answers · asked by Fireman69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave her
2006-11-24 00:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you were gonna ask her or you already asked her? Well sounds like you hadn't yet. If so count yourself lucky. My experience with women has taught me a few things. One of those things is that if you ever catch your woman cheating she usually wants you to. It is sort of a wake up call for you. Either she wants to hurt you or point out something you are lacking. But that's just something for you to think about as you go on to a new relationship. I would advice you to leave well enough alone. Part ways and go do your own thing. Enjoy some freedom. Don't curse her, seek revenge, or be a jerk. Just leave and let her know that you will not stand for such behavior. You guys may get back together someday but let that be some other day.
Or you could forgive. Keep in mind that that course of action will require from you a lot of willpower because you will be tempted to do things to make her suffer for her cheating ways. You have to refrain from that at all costs cause you will end up doing more harm than good. So take some time to think about what you should do. Weigh the cheating with the relationship. Is it worth saving or will you just be tormenting yourself wondering if she will stray again. But don't be no damn whimp! NO CRYING! NO BEGGING! NO ASKING QUESTIONS YOU KNOW YOU CAN'T STOMACH! WELL YOU CAN CRY BUT NOT IN FRONT OF HER...LOL!
2006-11-24 01:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there has been distance between the two of you then someone was not communicating and things got lost. People make mistakes and they pay for them in the long run. Don't be too quick to make a harsh decision. If you do then the next person you meet will probably be a danger to your life in every aspect ie. financial, physical, emotional, and spiritual. If you both really care about each other then you will brush that mistake under the carpet and move on and never bring it up even in the worst argument. Love is hard to find, don't be too quick to judge the person that holds a place in your heart. Hopefully everything will work out. Good Luck.
2006-11-24 00:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by sexceeladie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont rush into anything. Some people have a partner that cheats on them and they can live with it. Others cant move on and never trust the person in the same way.
Its all down to what your feelings are really. I personally wouldnt marry the person. If they couldnt have a relationship with only me, i would have to think twice. Yeah people make mistakes but i believe there is always a point when the person can say no and make the decision to carry on regardless. If you get what i mean.
A year is no time at all in the grand sceme of things and if you do choose to move on you will find a person who you can trust. Email me and let me know how you get on xx
2006-11-24 00:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been here done this....first of all are you 100% sure she cheated on you? if so you need to leave her, and i know if you have strong feelings for her then its gonna be tough, when i found out the girl that i was with cheated on me, i still wanted to keep the relationship, but eventually you will come to your senses and if you go ahead and break up with her now then thats just that much sooner you can start the healing process. if she cheated then the circle of trust between the two of you is broken and no matter how hard you try to mend it, it will never be able to be put back the way it was......so to close i say break up with her now before she causes you more hurt
2006-11-24 00:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by bshelby2121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People cheat for 2 reasons: A) they already consider the relationship over and/or don't have the courage/integrity to end things correctly, or B) they can't and/or won't control their urges and impulses (sober or not).
My ex-boyfriend (we lived together for 3 years) cheated on me for both of those reasons.
Either way, it's dangerous (for your heart) to stay with her. She needs to deal with her issues without using you as her emotional punching bag or safety net. Tell her to get some counseling and give you some space.
If you still love her, keep in friendly touch; but if you are overwhelmed by feelings of distrust, anger, betrayal...stay away. Keeping in touch will only hurt more, as you will constantly want to question her as to what she's doing, and with whom.
2006-11-24 00:54:52 · answer #6 · answered by gNat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her about it
if she won't admit it and you are SURE she did it, then don't consider marrying her. If she says why, has good reasons, and you and she still want each other then maybe it could work out long term.
I always figure, just as easy to find an honest partner as a liar. Maybe easier. Less pain long term and no need to wonder if they are cheating in the future. I'd rather have somebody who just tell me.
2006-11-24 00:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't and wait about 5 more minutes before you dump her... Once trust is gone the relationship is too, just except what she did and save your own heart by walking away from her... Other wise if you stay with her and she does it again well then that just makes you pathetic because you've now had the warning sign that she does not love you... there's a saying- YOU DO IT ONCE- shame on you- YOU DO IT TWICE- shame on me- and it is very true...
2006-11-24 00:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know people say once a cheater always a cheater but I know from expierence that that is NOT always true. I think you should probably take a break for a while and let her realize what she really wants. Like me mom always told me " If you love someone let them go if they come back it was ment to be if they don't then it was never ment to happen" TAKE MY MOM ADVICE. Good luck.
2006-11-24 00:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by Myranda M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is sacred..if you really love the girl and she has realised her mistake and still love you deeply, then let the past go..why continue harping on it..? every human err..And through mistakes, they learn..Give her a chance to live a lifetime with you..
however, if she is still unrepentant, and insists that she is not in the wrong, then you ought to think twice whether this is the right girl for you and whether you want to live a lifetime with her..
2006-11-24 00:52:59 · answer #10 · answered by project_vk_03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cheated once and will again, she is immature and still looking for her "special" man. You are not him. break it off and move on. She'll say she's sorry, but she will not break it off with the guy she cheated with. Good Luck
2006-11-24 00:49:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋