When I met my boyfriend years ago. He got my number one night and asked me out the evening after.
Any ideas why he didn't try to be my friend first and get to know me that way??? it doesn't really matter now, just always wondered about it.
Sensible answers please
2006-11-24 00:31:24 · 30 answers · asked by littlepixie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Right, for a start. I'm not having sex with him, as don't believe in sex before marriage. So anybody saying "for sex" is wrong and I have been with him nearly 3 years and we are now living together, so he does love me.
2006-11-24 00:42:11 · update #1
I have asked him, he doesn't know, so I was wanting some suggestions from other people.
2006-11-24 00:54:45 · update #2
Sounds to me like he really, really liked you based on first impressions.
2006-11-24 00:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by Stu B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't consider him your friend now?
Honestly, even when trying to develop a relationship, you should also be building a friendship. That's part of why we feel so sad and/or devastated when a romantic relationship ends--because we've also lost a good (or best) friend!
The only difference between a romantic relationship and a platonic one should be the level of attraction. So what if he acted on his attraction for you? If he liked you that much (and already knew you wouldn't have sex with him), he probably would have been happy to at least be friends..... but ecstatic that you agreed to be more.
2006-11-24 00:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by gNat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He only wanted sex. And if you gave it to him before you became friends, that's why he didn't make an effort to be friends.
It's not that hard to figure out.
Now, I think you are not telling the truth because if you are living with him you probably are having sex, and you would be have to be friends to a certain extent. Your story doesn't jive and you just don't want to hear the answers that we've given you. Your screen name is phuck, but you don't believe in sex before marriage? Yeah, right.
2006-11-24 00:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in sex before marriage how come ur living with him?
I guess he liked you more than a friend from the start.
2006-11-25 03:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by sammyantha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were in a club then he saw you as an easy mark. If you were revealing everything to him then he may have thought that he could get what he needed out of you and then get to know you later if it was meant to happen. He may have thought that you were going to be easy to get into bed. In a case like that the male usually is only looking for one thing at that time. Hopefully you did not give into that naive female syndrome that most males think all females have. Good Luck.
2006-11-24 00:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by sexceeladie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, he saw something in you that he already liked maybe love at first sight? Dating is getting to know a person. I think alot of guys need a girlfriend and they a more comfortable with a committed "get to know" vs. "take it slow" relationship. You have the control though on how fast it goes.
2006-11-24 00:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by Barry W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you either fancy someone or you don't - and then you date them and see how it goes - if you start off as friends it tends not to go anywhere and being a friend and being a lover are two different jobs.
There is alwaya a window of opportunity and once its gone its gone and trying to go back (I have tried once of twice) never works out because its all a bit late
2006-11-24 01:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by Saucy B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In trading terms he cut out the middle man and went straight to the heart of the matter. One usually meets, goes out and over the days,weeks or months you become friends and then perhaps lovers. Take things as they happen.
2006-11-24 00:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way he could find out if he liked you or not would be to spend some time with you. So he got your phone number and asked you for a date.I don't see anything unusual about his behaviour.
2006-11-24 00:46:13 · answer #9 · answered by Daddybear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably was so happy he had your number that you must be some sort of catch so he didnt want to run the risk of another man claiming you before he could be your friend
2006-11-24 00:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by marishka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋