Oh well, my relationship with my bf is amazing. each of our families knows each other; i like them, they like me. My bf is awesome but as long we have long distance relationship, for him at the beginning, was hard to go out with his friends cuz they always started makin jokes around like "why he have a gf so far" bla bla bla. the last sh!t they said about me it was that he must take care cuz maybe i was just trying to get at him to go to the states, which is a total lie cuz it's not my intention. we love each other and he said he would not listen to his friends. But once he was with his brothers and i called him and he was like "hey what's up?" when he usually says something like "hey my babe how are you" so i totally felt offended but he called me back and asked forgive. BUT yesterday he was with his buddies and i called him and he acted like that. so i got mad at him.
why he needs to act like this front his friends? Is he scared of being joked by his friends?
help me someone
2006-11-24
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I think you know the answer to the question you posted here. I think he's scared of being joked by his friends. Listen to me hun, when a man goes into a relationship, his friends even the true ones will start to get a bit jealous and will see his gf as their enemy. The reason for acting like this is because they think that because of his gf they are going to loose a friend. I know that they are acting selfish in these cases but believe me it happens all the time because I went through it more than once. The only one that can stop this is not you but your bf. He has to act like a man with full responsiblity to ignore his friends' jokes and when he does so, his friends will realise how strong is he and how it is difficult to make him change his mind. When they realise this they will stop joking believe me. All you can do is to have a good conversation with him though, and let him know that he has nothing to be scared of even if there jokes are tough for him, he must never let them interfere with your relationship. If you do this conversation don't show him that you are uncomfortable even if he asks, always deny it because if you do so he could go against you and your relationship could break up. Good luck hun and hope that this will help you and your bf.
2006-11-24 00:34:45
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answered by Falcon 4
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I have a feeling that he's still under a lot of peer pressure. If he loves u totally he shdn't heed or give a **** to what his so called friends thinks or say. I think his circle of friends are still an immatured lot!!! If he has a mind of his own he shd get rid of these kind of ppl. Talk to him but be diplomatic. Rem that guys are very sensitive reg the company they keep n wants us to accept their company no matter what.
Sorry to put a doubt in ur mind but one reason maybe that he's not so sure abt his feelings for u. Y don't u talk to him and give him more space so that he can introspect abt his feelings for u with no pressures around. hope u got my point!!! All the best!!!
2006-11-24 00:34:35
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answered by garfield 2
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Personally, I think you are a little over sensitive and very insensitive. Why would anyone want to get joked on or laughed at. And why would this be a criteria that you expect in your relationship. Of course no one wants to be laughed at. And you need to just cool down and relax. Either he is happy or he is not, if he is not there is very little you can do, he and you are so far apart. Good luck and God bless****
2006-11-24 00:23:10
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answered by ? 7
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Men can be hard to undestand attimes, but if you get close to them you will figure out something. I think whats hurting your relationship now is that he is far away and you have your own worries that may be someone might take him. Dont crack your head worrying too much coz it wont help, just love him and love him more and above all let him know it to his face that you love him. Good luck gal.
2006-11-24 00:31:05
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answered by Sammo 2
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guys dont like being mushy around thier friends because they get teased a lot, but when they are alone with you they love to be mushy and make you feel special if they are a good guy. My bf is never mushy with me when we are in his room with his roomate in the room or his shipmates walking by, but when we are in his room or my room alone and all is quiet we are the same as we would be completely alone at his house, granted the door remains open. But guys like to keep the woman in their life thier special treasure and they dont want others to see how you mean the world to them becuase that could really just make thier buddies laugh
2006-11-24 00:26:46
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answered by marishka 5
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Typical Man behavior
2006-11-24 00:24:32
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answered by Curio 1
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Talk to him tell him how you feel if he still does it then think twice you may not know who he really is and don't leave your country. He may treat you like that in front of his family and friends all the time if you live with him . Get to know him better
2006-11-24 00:23:51
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answered by angel 2
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2016-12-17 15:26:48
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answered by Anonymous
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Yes, he was being like that because of his friends. Guys always have to be macho. I wouldnt pay to much attention to it. Just next time your with your friends, do the same to him and see if he likes it. I'm sure he still loves you, so dont worry.
2006-11-24 00:22:44
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answered by pebbles 6
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Sounds like he is putting on a tough macho image so as to be a "big man" in front of his mates.
2006-11-24 00:23:31
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answered by MUSHMAN 6
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