I'm 18 and i met a guy (22) on the net a couple of weeks ago.He wants to meet me and i do too.The only thing that worries me is that he also thinks of sex.I don't wanna have sex on the first date.What sould i do?
2006-11-24 00:15:55 · 23 answers · asked by Venus! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Meet him somewhere where people are around. Don't let him get you alone anywhere for the first 2 dates.
If you want to get serious with him. and I mean this! : Don't have sex with him in the first 2 or 3 dates, but don't wait so long that he thinks you don't like sex.
Make sure he isn't an asshole first too. I have no pity for women who make bad choices about men. As*holes always have lots of red flags you can spot right quick.
Don't tell him right off the bat " I'm not going to sleep with you on the first date". Just keep that in mind and if he does make a pass. Make sure he knows you like him, but let him know its crazy to think you would put out on the first date.
2006-11-24 00:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, the reason I am writing you is because I want to comment on an answer you gave me and since you do not have e-mail access I will write you here...you wrote:
Of course i wouldn't wanna know!Then life would have no meaning!You would live your everyday life as normal but at the end of the day you would say:"Why am I doing all this?In XX days i'm gonna die" DON'T GET THE INFO,PAL!
And to that I would say, that I see it as just the opposite-my life would have MORE meaning because I'd know just how much of it I have left. Your answer almost sounds like you don't believe you will ever die, but now that I know your age, I get why you would think that way. I felt immortal at 18 too. You see, I say at the end of the day, "Why am I not doing this" and it is based on the false belief that I have time, but if I knew there was a specific deadline, it would magnify the quality of my life in ways that I presently cannot do. Anyway, do you get what I am saying...now as for your question,,,
Accept the responsibility that if you choose to meet this stranger-even though your gut instincts tell you not to, you are allowing your desire to want to meet him, to control you, and YOU ARE ASKING FOR TROUBLE. Some people live for drama and would go and meet him. I suggest you pass it up-if he is making sexual inuendoes then sex is what he is after and your heart and soul will be left in the dust.
2006-11-24 12:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by ontheroadagainwithoutyou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the mall and just make eye contact and smile at guys you liked. I prolly walked around the mall (two different ones) for about 5 hours with my friend today. I honestly went to see if I could meet some hotties and went up to some girls... Hang out with your friends outside of school, talk to your neighbors... get a job... practically anything outside of school will allow you to meet guys. If that doesn't work.. give me a call ;D lol
2016-05-22 22:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chatting on the site is generally use for everyone especially for teens. And this type of chatting, sometimes using another identity to become friends and do not take this seriously even he is best for you. If you really wanna meet that guy and afraid for the first dating, you can use webcam, so both of you can see on the web without any nervous....but be careful, some guy can cheat you
2006-11-24 00:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by Dark Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first if you decide to meet this guy you don't have to go alone and you should definately stay in a public place.
second you have control over your body and have the right to say "No."
No one should have sex on the first date (unless its self gratification after the fact). Sex is like a good chilli - it is always better if it is left to cook for a while before you enjoy it (and you have to add spices along the way).
MMM -- some like it hot!
2006-11-24 00:23:38 · answer #5 · answered by iamhermansen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he's 22? Stay away from this this guy, he might rape you or worse kill you. Are you crazy? A person on the net is a faceless person you don't know. Anyone can Lie through their teeth at you about how nice he is and it could all be a lie, to trap you. You might be in danger. Do NOT go see this guy.Think about it, he meets you and in two weeks he thinks he can have sex with you? BE CAREFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-24 00:23:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with him and ask him to meet you in public place and tell him that you only would like to know him more on the first date and you can end that with a kiss.
Believe me you will make him crazy about you
good luck
2006-11-24 00:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I had one of those myself. In the end he hooked me up with one of his friends and i am going to meet him tomorrow.
Okay. Don't meet him in a secluded area. If you trust him to meet him by yourself then you need to do it in an open area. You will be more comfortable. Make saure and walk with a blow horn or mase or peppermint spray incase he loses his mind with you.
2006-11-24 00:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you tell him when you chat again that you don't want to sleep with him. Say it in a nice waylike " I don't sleep on the first date" or " I'm decent, not easy" so you don't hurt his feelings.
Meet him, make sure its a crowded place and tell two or three people where(Place) you're going. relax and have fun.
2006-11-24 00:21:56 · answer #9 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful! He probably isnt how he depicts himself. He may not even be 22 and might even be a predator.
Find a nice local guy at the community college you go to.
2006-11-24 00:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by bradthepilot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋