I am coming from a male point of view here. It appears to the majority of people I know that the female will not shut up when mandatory (and not optional), as presented by men. Why do they continue on, even when force becomes the next level. Even when harm may come, they won't shut down their vocal cords.
Do men suffer the same conflict? Do men not shut up when a force greater then them directs the act? Yeah, we do.
Why won't a woman do the same? And even more wrong in my eyes, the female will say absolutly useless responses just to be heard, rather than an difinitive response or debate the issue in question. Anybody else know what I am talking about?
2006-11-24 00:04:23 · 5 answers · asked by Michael K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ms. Fruitbat does know what you're talking about. There are definitely differences in how males and females communicate, and we women also often think men are nuts because we don't understand their style either. They often seem to me like there's a whole bunch of nonverbal things going on in the room that show who likes and doesn't like who and all kinds of subtle complex stuff going on at the same time and it's all going straight over their heads, like if every obvious little thing isn't pointed out to them they just don't have a clue.
I've heard it all goes back to when men were hunters and communication had to be minimal, direct and simple, (and I assume each males rank had a lot to do with who got to be listened to the most), while females gathered, spread out over a large area without much need for rank, and watching kids too, so they kept up a constant chatter, and as long as they heard everybody carrying on with low key chatter, they could keep track of where everybody was and know that everybody was safe, and what was actually being said wasn't the most important part. Women do say an average of 3 times more words per day than men do.
So for example even though it seems crystal clear to you, whatever women you're talking about may not realize men mean that harm will come if they don't shut up; they may think that as long as they keep talking, they're keeping negotiations going on that will prevent the next level of force. Also in women-speak, it's considered somewhat rude to bluntly state an opposing opinion, so the way women participate is to make a neutral comment, or one where their point seems clear to them but is done so subtly that the guys don't even know they're trying to make a point. It is all very interesting, from a distance that is. But close up it's maddening. Ms. Fruitbat wishes you luck.
2006-11-24 00:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by ms.fruitbat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it hard to believe that someone with your mentality has a better half and I would bet that you wont have her for long.
This is no way to treat someone that you care about and it makes me wonder what your parents were like.
It sounds like you have learned this way of thinking from someone.
For your own happy future I hope you change your point of view on this or you will be an awfully lonely person in the future.
2006-11-24 00:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes I understand what you say ..just calm down ,some people cant just shut up and you must get used to it ...like me now?shouldnt I shut up now?
2006-11-24 00:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
SORRY BUT SOME OF THE MEN NEVER SHUT UP
2006-11-24 00:15:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What a sexist attitude!
Your biggest problem is your ego.
2006-11-24 00:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋