At each event my mother in law is ready to take the baby out my arms before I've gotten through the door good. This erks me! I feel like there's a fight going on over the baby. Whenever it's time for his bottle, she finds a way to get the baby and give him his bottle. Keep in mind, she doesn't ask me. She just takes him. At one function I snuck away with the baby to feed him so I could do it in peace without her trying to take over. At my first function with her and the baby, she held the baby the entire time and I was really angry about it. I now have to work hard to not let that happen again.In addition, my son is in daycare M-F and the weekends is my only time to be a full time mom, I do not want her help!! I'm sick of feeling this way at functions and it stresses me out. I know she's a grandmother but I don't want her taking over my job when ever I visit her. She is not getting my point regardless of what I say or do. My husband has even talked to her.
2006-11-24 00:01:54 · 6 answers · asked by tayy2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
WOW...whats the big deal, your mil loves your child and when she gets to see him she wants to express all her love on him. You should be thankful, some grandparents dont want anything to do with thier grandkids.
What is the harm in letting her take over when you visit????
You get to have the baby to yourself and be a full time mom at home, I dont see your frustration in her actions, you should be happy that she cares so much.
I feel sorry for you and your son because if you keep letting this get under your skin you will never have a good relationship with her, I think you have other issues with your mil and this is the reason that it bothers you so much when she "takes over" with the baby.
I dont mean to get on your case but grow up and let your family enjoy your son, it will only benefit him in the long run.
2006-11-24 00:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Suggest you sit down with your mother-in-law, and come to an understanding about sharing time with the baby. It's important to find a way to co-exist, and to allow her time with her grandchild too. Perhaps she could spend a couple hours with the baby after you come over, and then you have the baby for awhile. I'm sure she truly believes you appreciate the time she spends with baby, although it's very obvious you'd prefer she didn't. Sounds like she's really just trying to be a good grandmother. Most parents are happy for a grandparent to take charge of the baby; just talk to her openly, and honestly, but let her know that you're not trying to keep her from the baby. Good luck!
2006-11-24 08:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm willing to bet this is your first child. I remember feeling the same way towards my mom when my first was born. By the time you have your second, you'll be ready to hand the baby off as soon as you walk through the door!!!!
2006-11-24 09:08:56 · answer #3 · answered by CW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are so fortunate to have a mother-in-law who loves your son enough to want to hold him every moment that she can.
Additionally, think of the break that she is giving you to have a "hands-free" time at family functions. What a kind and considerate person she is!
What is the big deal? She's a doting grandmother. And, you don't go to family functions every week! Chill...
2006-11-24 08:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you should just let her spend time with her grandson. Stop being so selfish. you live with your baby and your mother in law just misses him. suck it up for a couple hours and let her be with your child.
2006-11-24 12:17:19 · answer #5 · answered by jrtootsiepop 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you leave w/ her? if yes.. better get your own house.
if not.. then you should lessen the visit on her place.. it surely irritates if a mother in law acts like that!
huh............................
2006-11-24 08:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by labs 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋