2006-11-23 23:32:51 · 10 answers · asked by dandoon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its not being good that's your problem, your problem is that you trust people way to easy. i used to have the same problem. just try raising your standards for trusting people and you won't get hurt as much but that doesn't mean closing yourself off from others.
2006-11-23 23:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by Matts 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to learn to be assertive- not mean. Know when to say "no" and when to stand up for you. I am also one of those people that have to learn to be more assertive. I have been burnt by so many people and I am finally at a point where I realize I have to stand up for me- if I don't- who will?? Being mean will make it so you have no friends- being assertive will make the friends you have realize that they can't walk all over you. Always THINK before responding to someone on a request. For instance- if someone asks to barrow $30- ask yourself "if I lend them the money- do I KNOW I will get it back?, Can I afford to lend them the money? If I lend them the money and they don't pay me back- will this effect how I feel about our friendship?" Make choices based on doing what's right for YOU- not them!
2006-11-23 23:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay being good, it is easy to be bad or mean, it is hard to be good. Do not let people change you. if someone is mean, start to distant yourself from people like that. Change the type of people you hang around. And if someone is cheating on you, you do not have to take it, leave them, they are showing you no respect, and you do not have to put up with it!
2006-11-24 00:15:10 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is two fold, your around the wrong kind of people and that is a choice you make. Additionally, in being associated with the wrong kind of people, others naturally assume that your not worth the time of day and treat you badly.
I know that statement is harsh, but sometimes reality bites.
2006-11-23 23:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, that means, you met someone that is trying to humiliate you every time you show your kindness to others. For we're on the same tract. Be patient. Be thankful, too, that you are not one of them.
Do be of good cheers always and GOD BLESS.
2006-11-23 23:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by Mutya P 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's the people you are with in the relationship who use and abuse u. they aren't the right people, before u get into any relationship, we must first know if we can trust that person, we need to look a little deeper into their past, we need to know we can rely on them. just watch who u trust, don't be so easy to give, check out who u are friends with. we sometimes attract those who would use us, when we seem to be weak, just get tougher, the only one we can really count on is ourselves, and god, not other people.
2006-11-24 00:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need to be mean,its wonderful to find someone "GOOD" these days,you dont need to change your lovely nature just to be able to keep it up with other mean people...just be your self,and soon you'll find someone REALLY good for you ..
2006-11-23 23:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by AB 4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you have been associating with the wrong people. It is they who have a problem- not you...
2006-11-23 23:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is not you its the people your with get rid of them and good luck
2006-11-24 00:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause u did to ur self. pick better friends
2006-11-23 23:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by just hanging around 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋