I'v been married for 13 years and I love my husband dipley. I belived him so much but I just found out that he allways had other girls to talk and have sex with.He sas that that was accident eventhough he continuosley meet and ...He had a lot of money but dasn't have anymore.He dosen't have girls anymore as well He say that he love me.What should I do I dont wont to brake my kids hart but I gonig krazy Is there any help
2006-11-23 23:24:50 · 11 answers · asked by R P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dump him and take him to the cleaners in court.
Find a great lawyer and get alimony and child support.
He sounds like a real dolt!
2006-11-23 23:36:20 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very interested in knowing if he had these girls while he was with you. If he did then you need to really take a look at what is important to you. Chances are he doesn't have the girls anymore because he has no money, that is of course if he had the while he was with you. I know that when there are children involved it is alot harder to ups and leave but you have to do what is best for you love.
If the girls were before you then if he says he loves you he does.
Maybe you just need sometime away from him to think things through. If that doesn't work, there is always Counseling.
2006-11-24 07:38:02 · answer #2 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I think you should have a throughly body check-up especially any hidden diseases coz your hubby has intimacy sexual with outside gals whom you do not know their sex histories.
2ndly, he may be penniless now and claims that no more girls around him. This may be true coz when he is wealthy those days, all bees will be surrounding him. But can you guarantee he will be only faithful to you ever after even when he is back to his wealthy days in future? Answer is "No". So why hesitate?
I do not understand if you love your flirtious hubby, why he would choose to hurt you and yet he marry you with marriage vows? Think it all over and based on my own personal opinion, a man like him doesn't deserve the best from you.
2006-11-24 08:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has been dishonest to you. He has betrayed you and your children. He has betrayed your values, and your wedding vows.Someone who obviously has had an immoral past,cannot be a very good example as a father to his children. You must make sure this marriage is worth saving. I suggest you both get into marriage counseling together, as well as separate counselings on your own, if you both deem the marriage salvageable. And even then it may not work out, and your children's hearts may be broken. As a child of divorce myself, I was mad at my parents for getting divorced, but as I grew older, I realized it was for the best. Me personally being a married woman, Id divorce him in an instant.
2006-11-24 08:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by RocketGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand this is hard for you to have thought one thing your whole life to find out something different about your husband, but if you really love him and he is doing good now. Don't break up your family now. If he gives you reasons later on and still has this behavior than you may want to think differently, People do make mistakes in life even those kind of mistakes. Good luck to you with everything.
2006-11-24 08:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by missy j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he telling you all of this now? Does he want out of the marriage? Because by telling you, it is only building a bigger hole for him to go in. What does he want you to do, leave him? What you need to do, is see if the two of you can work this out. If you do, the best thing is to go to a marriage counselor, because it has to be very hard for you to deal with him being unfaithful to you. and also wasting so much money on other woman. Now if this is too much for you to except, then you have to move on with your life. Yes, it is easier said then done. but you have to do, what you have to do, not only for yourself, but for your children. Because you do not have to put up with this foolishness. If you can't forgive him, move on. Do what you think is best for you!
2006-11-24 07:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So are you saying that your husband is cheating on you. If so you need to sit him down and ask him if he is cheating on you. If he is then I would suggest that you tell him to move out of your house. Tell the kids that dad is going to living somewhere for a while, until you and he works things out. But if he has been cheating on you for 13 years you need to leave him
2006-11-24 07:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU won't break your kids heart, he already did! He's done all the damage here, not you. Why would you allow him to treat you this way and stay with him? You need to love yourself more and not allow his treatment. I'm sorry but a guy like this WON'T change!!!!!
2006-11-24 08:16:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man that has regularly been cheating, with a succession of different women IS going to cheat again and again. You can pretend to believe he'll be faithful, but in your heart you know he won't.
2006-11-24 07:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, he has already broken the trust why should you believe him? why does he say he loves you only when he has no money and all his girls have left him , why dint he say it when he had all the money, reason is because he didn't and wont, if you believe him and he gets more money he will do the same same thing whom will you blame,don't believe him he will only bring you diseases from the other girls.
2006-11-24 07:37:13 · answer #10 · answered by seyhay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋