My partners mum died 2 years ago, and when she was cremated he was given her ashes.
he decided that he was going to buy a rose, (her fav flower) and plant it in is garden with her ashes buried with it.
Yester we got back from work to find that the rose had been dug up and stolen! There is absolutly no trace of dirt on the patio around it or anything.
I know that we are very unlikely to get the rose back, and my partner is so upset, as it was the only thing he had left of his mum.
Is there anything i can put together to make him feel better??
serious suggestions only please
2006-11-23 23:21:04 · 17 answers · asked by GeorgieP 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get a photo of him and his mum and put it in a frame, a nice frame, then get a bigger better brighter rose when he aint in, plant it and when he gets back give him the photo frame and a glass of wine and sit with him, listen to what he has/wants to say and be there for him. I hope you both get through this, what a horrible thing to happen, eveyone gotta go through it though, its nature, keep reminding him that she is somewhere out there watching and blessinghim everyday.
Goodluck x
2006-11-23 23:24:23 · answer #1 · answered by london lady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The rose bush went missing but the ashes are still there, Just get another rose bush and replace it. Some people are weird why pinch a rose bush for gods sake!! Can you contact some other relatives and some of his mothers friends and collect things that may have meant a lot to her, anything small even photos and make a little remembrance box for him to keep. Something he can go to when he thinks of her. This is what my friend did when she lost her husband in an accident not too long ago.
2006-11-23 23:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy another rose and tell him that the ashes are still in the ground. Tell him they mix with the soil and are deeper than the rose was planted. Everytime you water they soak in farther. There really would still be ashes in the soil so you aren't lying. You can also dig up the dirt from the old location and put it in the ground in a new safer location and plant the new rose in the new place. That was crule of someone to do that. Sorry to hear that happened.
2006-11-23 23:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by Just Bein' Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about buying a beautiful ornamental red rose, and placeing it where the rose was, the rose would never wilt or die, and hopefully nobody would be mean enouth to steel it beins it is not real. There are some horrible people in this world, someone stealing that has not realised the sad impact it has made on your partner. I hope someone can resolve this for you, good luck.
2006-11-23 23:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by mazza999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are really cruel in their actions and don't realise the severity of their actions. The only suggestion I can make is that you have a chat with him and ask if he would like you to go and buy another Rose explaining that you understand it wont be the same but hope that it can help towards healing the pain the theft has caused him
2006-11-23 23:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by sn0ttyang3l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can only suggest replacing the rose. As you planted it two years ago, I would suggest that his Mum's ashes would have been well absorbed into the soil so it is only the rose which has vanished..........not the essence of his Mum...that will never go as it lives in his heart. The rose was a symbol.
2006-11-27 05:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a small memorial to his Mum? ..
Plant (rose bushes) Make a rose garden together and dedicate it to her naming the garden after her! Odds are they cannot steal an entire garden
Then invite family and friends over,have snacks and food, photos of her and share good memories.. celebrate her life!
2006-11-23 23:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by truthwalker7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you find a safer place around your home and dig another little garden, find another rose, and build a little memorial garden, plant some other little flowers around it to, and make it as pretty as you can, put a little angel statue in it, have seen them in gardens shops, i hope that this will help, there are some really nasty people out there, good luck and god bless.
2006-11-27 20:37:42 · answer #8 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know her favorite color rose? Buy one and give it to your hubby along with a framed picture of the 2 of them. Go through any family albums you might have. Remind him of the life he had with her. Tell him she wouldnt want him to be sad. All any Mom wants is for her children to be happy. Remind him only the rose was stolen, not her memories. He will have them always. Best of luck
2006-11-24 11:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by justcurious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First DONT get him any kind of replacements ...it would only make it worse...NOW i think you should talk to him,tell him that his mother just went to heaven and she's still there watching him...she's always around ...its much more than a rose bonding them,no matter what happens that bond will never be broken,also tell him that she's always around him watching over him.GOOD LUCK
2006-11-23 23:26:29 · answer #10 · answered by AB 4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋