i am pregnant after a short relationship, the father says he is not ready for a child although wants a relationship with me and deosn't want me to have an abortion?he says he knows he won't be able to cope with scans/birth etc. he wants to be able to come and see me but doesn't want to know anything about the baby.
2006-11-23 23:15:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
he says he wants to see me and have an actual relationship.I have no intention of living of taxes i have my own money and own my own property from being in a well paid job.
2006-11-23 23:30:06 · update #1
when u say "he wants to come and see me", does that mean he just wants to have sex. he is using u, he is not boyfriend material. how can he have a rltp with u and just ignore the baby.
get rid of him please, give yourself the respect u need. do not let these jerks take advantage of u.
2006-11-23 23:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by Miki 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Doesn't sound like he respects your goals or opinions, look at the whole picture not just what he wants you to see, the future of this child and how the father was absent from the very beginning, that wouldn't be fair to little one
Find your inner strength and you will be fine, dont depend on the fact that a baby will make a guy become a man
2006-11-23 23:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the moment the most important thing is that you look after yourself and the baby. You are a mother now so just focus on the baby and what is best for you both. You need to decide whether you want him in your life or not, dont let him decided for all three of you. I hope everything goes well for you and bub.
2006-11-24 00:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship with this idiot isn't your main concern, darlin'.
His legal relationship with that new life you two created is your concern. It's nice that he's "not ready" for a child, but just a tad too late.
You can't compel him to be emotionally supportive, but you can compel him to pay financial support. You need to get some legal advice from your jurisdiction on how to establish paternity. He has some legal duties he needs to honor.
As far as the "he wants to be able to come and see me but doesn't want to know anything about the baby," what's THAT all about? If you decide to raise this child, you and your child are a package deal for the next 18-plus years.
You owe yourself and your child more respect than to make him/her a forbidden topic around Mister-I-Want-It-Both-Ways.
Best wishes to you as you begin this challenging path.
2006-11-23 23:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Then he is not the person that you should have in your life and in your child's life. You deserve better than him and don't think for a moment that you will not be able to handle it. It all comes naturally and you must believe that it is your life and you have to think of yourself and your child. You should also let him know that he was man enough to pull his pants down and now he is not man enough to take responsiblity. Don't put yourself through all that stress you don't need it in your life. Remember that the wheel turns and he will want that baby once he sees it. But do what makes you happy and best for your unborn child.
2006-11-23 23:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetie pie 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think a better question would be...Are you ready, responsible, and have the resources to be a single parent???
If he doesn't want you to have the abortion, which by the way, is not his choice, then he is, by law of course, ready to pay child support for the next 18 years.
For your sake, my dear, I hope he has a good source of income. Or it's not too late to consider the option of abortion.
¨.....he wants to be able to come and see me but doesn't want to know anything about the baby.¨
Are you going to put the crying baby in a soundproof closet when he comes by to collect nookie? In what universe is this possible???
2006-11-23 23:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by dynamoo 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
take him to court for child support and if he doesnt want to see baby hes a jerk and u should not even see him he wants sex only but not what cums with it
2006-11-23 23:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by sonoftazont 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How can you be in a relationship with your babies father when your baby will be in the life...maybe he just doesnt know how to handle it yet...but when you do have the baby then he will get used to his son.daughter...just hang in there...he will come around
2006-11-23 23:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by shell bell 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Do you actually give a damn what society thinks? As long as you don't expect taxpayers to pick up the tab I don't give a damn either.
2006-11-23 23:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋