Ive been single now for 8 months having come out of a serious 6 year relationship. i have a few guys chasing me and asking me out on dates which is nice. however, there is this one guy who has been chasing me for years!even when i was in my previous relationship which he knew about. we have kissed and he says he likes me yet he wont ask me out on a date.he just sill chasing me!
he knows that i like him and i have asked him when is he going to ask me out but he seems really laid back about it all, and typically, this is the one guy that im really interested in!
how can some guys contact you all the time and ask you out all the time and yet, this one guy, who know that i like him,is just so chilled?is he afraid of rejection even though i asked him when was he going to ask me out?
2006-11-23 22:49:00 · 20 answers · asked by Special Lady!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well maybe he doesn't want to see too pushy knowing you've just come out of a long term relationship - someone he knew you were happy with. now make him realise your ready to move on.. ask him out for a drink one night... take it slow from there. this guy has liked you for time - meaning his waited for you for time thus being laid back now for him is common its up to you to give him something to move forward with. stop the chasing and suggestions ask him out for a drink... be cool about his answer either way.
2006-11-23 22:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by apple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you not loves you
He enjoys the 'maybe' in life
He is controlling you on his terms
You question shows how he is 'getting' to you
My advice would be to turn the tables
When he tries to kiss you pull away and say maybe later
Never give him a positive answer always say you'll think about it
Let him chase you if he wishes, but chase others on your own terms and let him know that you haven't yet met the 'real' Mr Right.
Be even more chilled than he is and seem to him that you can take him or leave him
Say a lot less and seem mysterious with your intentions.
These will all pretty well show him who's zooming who so to speak.................................
Very best of luck hope some of these tactics work
2006-11-25 04:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by Wantstohelpu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guy just really like the chase and remember it is a human habit to sometimes want what you cant have. If he hasnt asked you out and he knows you want to, I would be weary of him. You dont want to end up being mucked about by him. If he laid back he may well be shy or may have a girlfriend that hes not telling you about. Just chill like he is and see what comes of it. Meybe you will end up being friends or just enjoying being chased until somebody else pops up.
2006-11-27 22:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys like the chase, but not so keen on the commitment. Freedom being higher on their priorities than being around one person all the time.
Not ALL men are the same of course, those that think that are very much blinkered.
Ask him directly, get it over with and move on one way or the other, better that way than to wonder and waste your time.
2006-11-23 22:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by brianthesnailuk2002 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy liked you when you were involved with someone. Now you're not, there's no fun in the chase. Betcha, as soon as you start seeing someone else, he'll start chasing you again. Best thing to do? Treat him like a mate. You know the kind of thing...... Hi hon, how are you? Ok? see you later! And go off with your real mates. And find someone who doesn't do your head in with silly mind games.
2006-11-23 22:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by PATRICIA L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 10:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs his head examined. Maybe he's just too shy to 'formalise' your relationship. If you really want to move forward, you should take the lead and put him in a situation which he won't be able to resist and back out from. Some guys need a healthy shunt, in the right direction, in matters of this nature. Good luck.
2006-11-23 22:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by Fragile Rock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Smile,
Some guys, in fact a lot of them want to be told what to do. I know, I am a male dog and I am very obediant. Next time you get a chance, tell him what you want him to do and be specific... and realistic. That is, make sure he is able to accomplish what you want. This is the training phase, counselors call it teaching people how to treat you. In this relationship case you need to teach this guy that you want him to meet your needs by accomplishing what you ask of him.
Guaranteed to work with this dog...er guy.
2006-11-23 23:24:44 · answer #8 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has someone else. he wasn't chasing u, he was just flirting with u. maybe he is happily married and has 4 children by now. if a man likes u he wouldn't hesitate to ask u out
2006-11-23 22:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand back from him, act a bit cooler and see if it prompts any response. Could be he is playing .....time will tell......but chill don'tfret over him.
2006-11-23 22:53:02 · answer #10 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋