how do i have an orgasm?

Question

I am a 19 year old women...I have been sexually active for a few years. I have a baby, but I have never had an orgarm, I feel a failure or like I have something wrong with me, why cant I orgasm? how can I orgasm?I have a partner and we have sex at least twice a day. please help

Just so you all know,,,,yes the baby is my natural baby. I was pregnant with her and I gave birth to her

Answer 1

I have to recomend this book called resurrecting sex by Dr.Schnark. it goes into great detail aout women who have either not ever had an orgasm or very few of them. I really think you will find this helpfull, and good luck to you.

Answer 2

First of all, I'm a Guy and want to tell you that there is nothing wrong with you. Contrary to popular belief, all men are not just interested in their own orgasm, some of us actually do think about the ladies in our lives. Many women don't orgasm through regular sex and like an earlier answer here, I'd agree, using a good sex aid like the 'Rabbit' could just be the answer to sending you into orgasmic bliss. If your partner can't understand that you don't need a penis to achieve this, well, he has a hell of a lot of growing up to do. It's not about how often you make love, but about the quality and to be perfectly honest, penetration is about the least important thing for you to experience an orgasm. Hopefully you both have a solid and open enough relationship to work through this together. As I already said, don't feel guilty, you are not a failure, you're just a normal healthy Woman who requires her sexual needs fulfilled in the right way.

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with you, and you aren't a failure. Some women have a hard time having an orgasm.

The best thing that I can recommend is masturbation. The best way to find out what makes you feel good is to try to find it for yourself. Most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Don't be frustrated if you don't orgasm the first time -- most don't. It can also take awhile, especially if you're a bit apprehensive. Take your time and find out what kind of touch does it for you. Some women find that using a vibrator or lubricant helps.

Once you get that down, then you can incorporate it into sex with your partner.

There are a lot of good books out there or even websites that you can find that can give you good tips and go more in depth.

Answer 4

Read some books by Nancy Friday. She can teach you how.

You're not a failure, you just don't know your body and until you get to know it--how it responds, what it likes/dislikes, prefers in terms of touch, pressure, kind/amount of touch--you are not likely to have one.

The amount of sex has absolutely nothing to do with it. Getting to know your body, experimenting--FIRST ON YOUR OWN--has absolutely everything to do with it. THEN your partner can join in the fun and further help you.

Answer 5

Have you tried using a vibrator? Not to insert it,but if you gently let it touch your clitoris,it can give you the clitoris stimulation you need to reach orgasm. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

you arent a failure.but i was going to say get on top..Ive heard of alot of people not being able to orgasm unless they are on top. wierd i know but try it and see.

Answer 7

ask your husband to be more patient with you.He is the problem.why don't you tell him that you never had orgasm?if he loves he will do something for you!

Answer 8

you have a baby but you never orgasmed? so i assume it's your boyfriends baby he had with another woman? okay..

anyways practice makes perfect

Answer 9

have sex

Answer 10

Your boyfriend isn't too skilled then