there's a guy at work I'm really good friends with. he expressed an interest in wanting to date but I said no way because I'm married with kids, that's just not an option.
we're still friends, now he's started dating someone and he comes to me for advice etc.
I'm not a *****, I'm not planning to ruin this for him, but it hurts.
and i don't know why. i know i should be happy for him.
please help me deal with this.
2006-11-23 21:05:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honestly step out the box and what would you think if your hubby didnt cheat on you but his friend is dating someone and its actually hurting him! how supportive would you be!! And im glad you dont plan on ruining it for this friend but probably to save him and yourself you not the best person to turn to for advice!!
A way to get over this is to think why you said no but also why you fell in love with your hubby in the first place
2006-11-23 21:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by Tracy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See internally everybody desires some new taste in sex but the society refrains us from indulging in the same and hence this sort of a hurt / pain occurs deep inside our mind. This is nothing but a passing cloud just divert your attention to something else and everything would be solved. Even when he comes to you for an advice think that he somebody else and not relate him as the one who asked you for a date the you will overcome this problem.
2006-11-23 21:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well so far you've dealt with it quite successfully.Hey don't let him play mind games with you.Let him solve his own problems.Anyway a guy should'nt need advice about romance. If he does he should seek this from a male companion.No matter what you feel,this guy is'nt genuine.With you he has nothing to lose,you lose everything.This is the type who brags to thier pals about the hot chicks at work.Stay friends at arms length.
2006-11-23 21:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very confused and naive, aren't you? First of all, when he showed absolutely no respect for your marriage, you should not have continued being friends with him in the first place. As for him coming to you for love advice - it's up to you to put a stop to that. Just tell him that this type of conversation is making you uncomfortable, as you don't believe it's suitable for the workplace. That should shut him up.
2006-11-23 21:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not feeling hurt but u r missing all the attention u were receiving from him ... but its ok ... u will and u need to get over with it .. know what, ppl tend not to treasure what they have and they care a lota bout what they dont ... try not to do this ... u have a husband and kids ... they so damn care about u ... just see that u mean a world to them and know that it is real tough for some people to find that ... u r so lucky ...
2006-11-23 21:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by Yash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well done, you have your commitments, its nice when attention is paid to you, but remember you are married, try something different in that relationship, get the buzz back into it.
2006-11-23 21:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by Emma B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts because honestly, you feel something for him also. The good thing is that, you think of your family and did not allow yourself to be mislead. Congrats!!!!!
2006-11-23 21:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by rosamia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know he liked you and you started liking it too, now he is going for some other gal and you think he doesent like you anymore, thats why it hurts.
2006-11-23 21:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by funnysam2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about the pain you can cause your family, just a thought.
2006-11-23 21:28:40 · answer #9 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's maybe because you used to always have his attention that's why it hurts you seeing him with someone..
dont worry too much, you have your husband..focus your life to your husband and kids..Ã you'll soon realize that you shouldn't be acting that way..Ã
2006-11-23 21:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by angelren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋