2006-11-23 20:42:00 · 17 answers · asked by depressedRen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is there to deal with?
2006-11-23 20:43:21 · answer #1 · answered by jonas_tripps_79 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
get used to it baby! It's the nature of the beast! There is no man on earth that does not do that from time to time. Some men are just insensitive to their partners feelings. These kind of cads only can think with their little heads, but unfortunately lack any kind of brains or cerebral function.......Then there are the type of men that have some consideration of their partners feelings and show some couth when it comes this matter. These men usually can keep this labido issue in check and attend to it only when they are not in the presence of their partner. If this matter is really becoming a negative issue for you, then you need to be honest and tell him how it makes you feel, not just act like you don't notice because for sure he won't stop. Maybe by being honest you both can compromise, on the other hand, if he's not willing to budge on the issue, then start doing the same thing. Do things that get to him, flip the coin, teach him a lesson, same dose of his own medicine as you will. Well, GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-23 23:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by vocalick210 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why do you need to 'deal' with it? As long as he is not expressing himself I see no need to 'deal' with normal behavior.
If he is saying something like "Hey Hon, look at her!" still not much of an issue. If he is saying "She's so hot" or something else that implies she is 'better' than you in some way or saying something that makes you feel inferior you need to sit him down (preferably where there are NO women around) and tell him it hurts you when he says those things because it devalues what you and he have.
Other than that, I'm out of ideas cuz my response is usually "go get her Tiger" cuz he knows he never could and it puts the bad feelings back on his ego.
HTH
2006-11-23 20:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Star 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not exactly clear what you mean by "looking/fantasizing"?
Is this taking place walking down the street or in a bar, and he's checking out another woman?
Or are you talking about him masturbating to porn?
Either way, I'm going to give you that same answer......All men masturbate and all men check out other women!
It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, or finds you unattractive, or finds you unsatisfactory in bed or anything else along these lines.
Its what men do. We're hardwired this way. It's nothing personal so don't take it that way.
You don't scold a dog for acting like a dog, so why bother scolding a man for acting like a man?
2006-11-23 22:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think that him doing it openly and obviously in front of you is disrespectful. If it was me, i would be very hurt by it and would not accept it or deal with it. I would approach him about it, not in a confrontational way, but in a way that he will consider my feelings and try to change his actions. Don't let him brush it off. You feeling hurt by this is not something that should be taken lightly, because it affects your whole relationship with him. Just don't make it out like a personal attack on him. Make it a problem for both of you that you want to work out together.
2006-11-23 20:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think looking is ok but I would never vocalize about anyone else,if he does tell him you don't like it.You need to keep the channels open.If he doesn't get it,you play the the game dress provocative and let the men check you out when your with him.See how he deals with that ! One thing about us men "grass always looks greener on the side"
2006-11-23 21:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
yer this is a hard one cos all men look,like my husband says quote you may own a Ferrari but if a mustang goes past you look at that to, if he is only looking that's OK,but if he is making noises or comparing them to you or getting sexually exited this is not acceptable , and tell him this, if he keeps doing it turn it around ,when a male walks past you make a throaty growl and say hubba hubba so your husband hears,and keep doing this he will finally get the message,if not turf him out
2006-11-23 21:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by shell girl 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
deal with him by confronting him and telling a condition that if he keeps on fantasizing about other women, you will broke up your relationship. of course you will not do the breaking-of-relationship, it is just your frightening-phrase!
2006-11-23 20:45:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Get a grip, stop being insecure...be spontaneous, fix yourself up, be confidant and sexy....insecurites only drive them away... let him have his fantasies...don't YOU have any? If you don't then something is wrong!If this advice does not help..POKE HIS EYES OUT! But even that won't stop him, he would still have his dreams! get my point?
2006-11-23 20:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by wherenai 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You do it back to him and see how he reacts. Then you deal with it the same way he does!
2006-11-23 20:44:10 · answer #10 · answered by Carinna C 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋