My boyfriend and I were both virgins and we had sex for the first time recently. We tried the missionary position and he was penetrating me for awhile (about 5 minutes-10 minutes) but neither of us could orgasm. So we tried it again with me on top for awhile but we both still didn't orgasm. I know its normal for a girl to not orgasm the first time she has sex but isn't it alot easier for a guy to achieve orgasm his first time? Is it normal he didn't orgasm his first time? I also can't get him off with a hand job either. Is there something wrong with him? Are we doing something wrong?
2006-11-23 19:48:31 · 8 answers · asked by bananas 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
First of all, many women never orgasm from intercourse alone, because they need direct stimulation of the clitoris. So until you have enough experience to be able to try a variety of positions, don't worry about it as long as he pleases you in some way.
As for him, he is probably nervous. He might have been worried about hurting you, instead of letting go and enjoying himself. If you are close enough to have sex, then you should be able to communicate with each other, so you need to ask him what the problem is. If you are young, he might be afraid of getting caught. If he comes from a religious upbringing, then he might have conflicting feelings about whether he is doing the right thing. But it is most likely something psychological that is holding him back.
2006-11-23 20:00:27 · answer #1 · answered by jellybeanchick 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
Do not worry this happens when both of you do first time .This is very good that you are worried about your and his satisfaction .
In sex there are two things
1. Fore play
2. Intercourse.
Bothof you can enjoy fore play maximum if you/she knows thier G-Spots.By stimulating the G-spots you both will gets the maximum enjoyment. Which helps to get Orgasm in intercourse.
During the intercourse generally man care for his orgasm (Ejaculation) which give negative feeling to woman. Ideal thing is both should get orgasm same time which will give maximum satisfaction to both of you.
Feel Free to contact for details
Enjoy Life
Dr.Mojo
2006-11-23 20:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong but you did not say whether you still had an intact hymen. once it is ruptured usually there is blood, pain to both because penetration is not easy. The feel of blood and sight of it switches off the urge to reach an orgasm. The boyfriend could have had fear of making you pregnant. You might not have had enough lubrication which hurts the glans.
2006-11-23 20:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by majiande 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your probably just to nervous. Take your time, go slow, that's what foreplay is all about. Letting each other explore your bodies, getting comfortable being naked, and sexually aroused.
Spend at least 30 minutes together, naked, before intercourse. You can kiss, fondle, stroke, lick, finger, tickle, hug, or just talk to each other, anything but intercourse. Then after 30 minutes, let him slide inside, and at least one of you should have an orgasm.
2006-11-25 17:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by knihelpu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too nervous
too much attention on the sex
Try foreplay & appreciate each other on a psychological level. Im sure things will get better. Just remember that if you both dont need the sex, dont force yourself to have any.
2006-11-23 19:52:38 · answer #5 · answered by Claude 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
truthfully i think of that's with the aid of fact the two certainly one of you're green. when I first began having intercourse with my bf i did no longer preserve it. I cherished the assumption of having intercourse with him with the aid of fact we are in love with one yet another, yet returned then intercourse did no longer experience like something. that's been 8 months when you consider that we first had intercourse, and intercourse is getting greater effective and greater effective! It does not injury anymore and now it oftentimes feels dazzling! You the two only might desire to get used to a minimum of one yet another, get used to having intercourse, and only shop having intercourse. finally you will like it. playstation my bf wasn't a virgin, yet i became into... I hate that he wasn't a virgin yet in a manner that's kinda dazzling with the aid of fact he knows what he's doing.
2016-10-04 07:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first time is never really that great, both people are usualy nervous and not used to one another... it'll get better
2006-11-23 20:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
get married and the "o" will come quicker than you thought possible.
2006-11-23 19:50:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋