Is it correct to ignore a 3month old who cries during the night?

Question

I have been told that they often just cry for attention, and its not good to let them get used to the idea....

Answer 1

If you know the baby is not hungry, not wet, doesnt have gas etc.. and you think he is just crying because you have put him down, then sit beside him while he is in his crib and rub / Stroke him and talk to him in a soothing voice.. When babies are tired they cannot put themselves to sleep. He needs to know you are there, you can comfort him without holding him, if you really dont want to pick him up. However i dont think you should completely leave him and let him cry. he needs comfort.

Answer 2

Ignore , i think , is the wrong word here. The baby is still young, yes and needs to be checked for 'needs', and comforting. Older babies can cry for attention, but probly not your 3 month old.
Babies can and will cry...for no apparent reason...and it is perfectly ok to let them cry, but at this age only for several minutes, before checking them. You can hear a cry becoming distressed if you leave it too long. If you are postive, there is no gas, upset tummy, fever, hunger, or wet diaper, then you can sooth and comfort without picking up. stroke tummy/head/back, asure them you are still here and stay with them for a min. to calm down. Sometimes babies will cry and not know how to stop and calm themselves down. Use your insticts. dont totally ignore., But also you dont have to jump and run to them at the first sound of crying.
mother of 4

Answer 3

There are many child psychologists who say it is IMPOSSIBLE to spoil a baby younger than 6mths old. They have no concept of 'manipulating' their parents to get what they want. They have needs, and yes one of those needs is to feel like there is someone taking care of them, to feel loved. If a baby cries, we should answer their cry. I never ignore my girl when she cries longer than a minute or two (as sometimes she wakes up and it takes her a minute to settle herself before falling asleep again and I want to give her time to do that) even now at 12mths old. She's a great sleeper, she sleeps 10hrs+ a night without needing me to come down and ck on her, and she's been doing that for the past 6mths now. She goes through phases where she'll wake up at 2am 'needing' me, and I go to her, but my answering her doesnt mean she'll continue doing this just to get attention. It lasts a few days, and then she is right back to sleeping through the night uninterrupted.

Some people are comfortable letting their baby 'cry it out'. Unless you are one of those people who feel it is right, DONT LISTEN. It wasnt for me, and it may likely not be for you either.

Answer 4

at 3 months a baby needs to be comforted and loved, they are trying to tell you that they need some thing, they are a little to young to be crying just for attention.
Try feeding the baby before they go to bed this helps keep their little tummies filled and they will sleep better. Good Luck.

Answer 5

get the baby and let them know you are there, hug the baby, love the baby! comfort calm and console the little bundle letting them know they are loved, If the child grows up with love, it will do wonders for their lives!!!!!!!!! You can console the child then check what it is they might need, diaper change, feeding, More than likely , most 3months old need to feed more often and could be hungry. THis is very normal, so NO, DONT IGNORE THE BABY. good question...

Answer 6

not so, at this age, baby may have gas, which hurts them alot!, trying to at least burp them might do the trick, baby may even have colic, the "crying disease", it is horrible, and they need comfort, there is no known "cure", sometimes walking and cuddling helps but it wont stop, my son had colic for 4 months, started when he was 3 months old, cried at 6pm until 12mid.

Dont ignore little one, there might be something really wrong and she might be warning you, Ignore teenagers not babies!

Answer 7

No, that is NOT correct. A crying baby signifies the child is in need of something. It's their only form of communication. You as the parent have the responsibility to meet the child's needs.

Think about this....the baby cries, you ignore him / her and later find that child dead in the crib......you want to risk it?

Answer 8

no its certainly not ok. If your baby needs attention at that age give it to them. I do not ever let my baby cry for more then a few minutes. She usually needs to be fed, changed, wrapped up, cuddled, talked to, burped, or put to sleep because she is overtired. Your baby isnt even at an age where it can be spoiled, and I think its lazy and neglectful to let your baby cry itself to sleep during the night because it needs something. If parents are to lazy to tend to their childrens needs then why the hell did they have them in the first place. Three months is way to early to let them cry it out.

Answer 9

ok, alot of people aren't going to like my answer, but this is what every doctor I have asked about this says...

Let the child cry, it helps to build thier lungs, and sometimes they could be crying for nothing. BUT if the crying lasts 10 minutes or longer, make sure the baby is ok, change it, feed it, lull it back to sleep. Even still, if the crying is continual, do a check just to make sure the baby is ok...put your hand gently on thier chest or back to make sure it is breathing, if you can't tell that way, put your finger under it's nose and you will feel the warmth every few seconds from them breathing. but please, never ignore the child if it is crying all night, you will neglect the poor baby!

Answer 10

There is no rule in this.
From my personal experience I can say that it's wrong to come everytime a newborn cries because growing up he gets accustomed by this habit.
It is also important to teach the kids the rules of life and the process of teaching starts as soon as they begin to understand something.
In this case it's important to understand when the baby cries because he needs something and when the baby cries because he wants attention.
Usually the delicate moment is when the baby goes to sleep at night. this is the first rules he needs to learn: night has come and it's time to sleep, and it's useless to cry...

Good luck!