Keeps breaking into your home and terrorizing you, and the police won't do anything about it, unless you have money to drive to the county seat, and HOPEFULLY get a restraining order, and you are totally and completely broke?
2006-11-23 19:26:00 · 9 answers · asked by the23FireKeep 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I had an ex-boyfriend that did this. Total freak. The police would come, arrest him, the court would let him back out. The restraining order didn't do much as he violated it all the time.
He would call me relentlessly and threaten me. He smashed my windows, broke into my car, followed me to stores, tear up my landscaping, etc. He would use pay phones so his cell phone number wouldn't show on my caller I.D. I drove all over town (this took days) and wrote down the number to every pay phone in town. That way when he would call I knew exactly where he was at.
That is how the police got him the last time. The police were already at my house (he had broken my windows out) when he called. The cop got on the phone while the other cops went to location I had down for the pay phone he was using.
He eventually got tired of getting arrested I guess, because he hasn't bothered me in about 4 years.
Good luck with everything. I feel for you being in this situation. Document everything. Write down what the ex does and when. Write down the names and badge numbers of the police you talk to . Get some assistance with battered women's shelters. There is help out there. Catholic Social Services, YWCA, Lutheran Social Services--these are just a few. It will not cost you anything for a restraining order.
2006-11-23 19:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by maamu 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Call your county department of social services and explain your situation; ask them to put you in contact with a women's advocacy group who might be able to help you. Also you could ask for a legal aid attorney to help you out with the restraining order. They probably also have a program to help you with transportation to these places. It's a hard thing to deal with if you don't know the right buttons to push. The most important thing to do is to keep calling the police whenever ANYTHING OF THIS NATURE HAPPENS so that it is on record and you have some documentation to go to court with. Every state and county is different but there are always women's shelters and safe houses that you can go to so he can't find you until the thing is resolved. It will be a tough thing to do but it's better than the alternative. You could also call the Salvation Army, churches, just start going through the yellow pages and look under anything you can think of that is relevant to your problem, eventually you will find someone who has some answers for you. I will pray for your situation.
MAAMU'S ADVICE IS GOOD. Call all of those places, someone will help you.
2006-11-23 20:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by valducci53 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maamu's answer is excellent.I got the restraining order on my ex,and an injunction.I wrote it all down.Nothing worked.I tried everything.In the end I left the country,with two kids and no money.I went into a women's refuge.I started again with nothing.If I was you I would go into a women's refuge.
2006-11-23 20:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Breaking and entering is a felony. Arm yourself. No one has the right to terrorize you. Everyone that comes to my house knows to knock. If not then they will be flying with the angels or dancing with the Devil.
2006-11-23 19:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by RIDLEY 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If a restraining order doesn't work,there are shelters for abused and battered women that can help you.
2006-11-23 23:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by Celebrity girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A peace bond is free. And a big can of pepper spray is worth the small price.
I've been there, done that...and it ain't fun to do alone, but it ain't impossible either.
2006-11-23 19:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by Jaded 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some rottweilers and see what happens next time he breaks in and terrorizes you.
2006-11-23 19:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by drateRa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would try to talk to him and let him know it was over. Or get someone really LARGE to come live with me to protect me. That wouldn't be a good thing at all. Rather scary thought.
2006-11-23 19:29:15 · answer #8 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Call your nearest abused women's shelter and they will come pick you up, help with going to court, food, advice, counseling, etc.
2006-11-23 19:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋