K a girl I work with asked me if I wanted to hang out after work and maybe go for coffee.
I was nervous so I told her I had homework.
(I am gay, but havent been with any1 for a year).
On her profile it doesnt say whether she likes men or women and it also says "enjoys talking to cute persons" not cute boys...
so do you think this girl is gay/bisexual?
or do you think she's straight?
2006-11-23 18:39:04 · 18 answers · asked by Sammy 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm not a "homo-frightened hetero"
I said I was gay, geeze! read.
2006-11-23 18:52:26 · update #1
well if u dont mind having another friend y dont u just hang out with her? just because she asked you out for coffee doesnt mean she must be gay/bi and is into you..it could be she just wana talk or is lonely and needs some company for now
if you are interested in her then..well need i say more just go ahead!
if you are interested in her but afraid if u go tru with it she turns out not to be gay/bi and you are heart broken then well..for me if i were you i would go ahead since i'd rather do all i can to get closer then live with not knowing, especially since she made the first move..(im in a situation where i wish she asked me out..)
if you cant stand her at all, even as a friend, then just politely decline saying u got other commitments
2006-11-23 20:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by acnemycin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is like the exact same thing that is going on with me right now, there is this girl I work with, who i have had a crush on since the begging, but i am afraid to ask her out, and on her profile it used to say not sure, but now it says straight, I also have not been with anyone for a year. sorry this really is not an answer. but it was weird how much that sounded like me.
2006-11-24 04:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's hard to say, it sure sounds as if she may be lesbian.
Anyway, if you think she is a nice girl, it is always a good idea to go out with her, have a nice time and see where it ends ! She already made the first step, so it would be a pity to let her down now, don't you think ?
2006-11-24 09:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by meiguanxi :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should take her up on that offer to go out and hang or get coffee. This way you two can engage in conversation. if shes gay then eventually the subject will come up. but if she doesnt bring it up then you should because your gay, and if you dont it may seem like your hiding it. ................Basically what im saying is try to get to know her................. even if she isnt interested in you in that manner, she may turn out to be a really good friend
2006-11-24 03:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by Quee Roxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the last thing you need is coffee...
RELAX!! You're thinking too much into it. You just passed up a good opportunity to make a new friend.
Stop actin' like a homo-frightened hetero, too.
Jeeeeeeze...
2006-11-24 02:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by DelectibleD 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When I was growing up, two girls could be friends and go everywhere together and it was called being best friends. Now it means your gay. That's a shame. The world will be very lonely if they can't just have friends. Does everything have to have sexual overtones? Are you like Rosie O'Donnell and filter the entire world through a gay point of view. Can ppl just be friends anymore? Maybe you are interesting in a friend way!
2006-11-24 02:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Does it matter? It may turn out that she would have been a terrible lover but a fantastic friend. Or maybe she just needs the right person to bring her out. Either way, I think it's worth forsaking you 'homework' for. Good Luck!
2006-11-24 02:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by Meeshie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Analyse after having a cup of coffee with her. The coffee pots have toppled big kingdoms and governments of past, your subject is nothing!!!
2006-11-24 02:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by SESHADRI K 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't read anymore into it then what it is..just an offer to go have coffee and have a nice time. If more happens..then so be it..but I would definitely go and find out..better then asking yourself "what if"
2006-11-24 02:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by hokieand8fan 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you think too much?
Make a move if you like her,
action speaks louder than words
Its doesn't matter she is gay/bi/straight,what matters is do you like her?
2006-11-24 02:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋