she got an effing gf! what do i do???
2006-11-23 18:38:46 · 16 answers · asked by Erikawithasmile 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
yes, she had a bf, ignored me the whole time, stopped talking to me for two weeks, then i heard from a friend that she was a lezbo now and she had a gf
2006-11-23 19:06:30 · update #1
wow. hope this never happens to me.
2006-11-23 18:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by aishah 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
First off: Cut out the degrading and insulting language. {ie "lezbo" and "effing gf"...what kind of a friend are you?}
Secondly: if you actually are her friend and not just a "fair weather friend" you'd find out for yourself if the 'RUMORS' are true.
Thirdly: If you actually are her friend, you'll accept her answer and not judge her.
Fourth: No one simply "turns gay." That's not how it happens. You're making assumptions based on rumors that she now has a girlfriend, and even if she does, how do you know that she hasn't been struggling with this for a long time already?
Real friends don't keep the rumor mill grinding out trash about people we call our "friends."
Real friends support each other, don't make judgment calls over rumors, and don't make derogatory comments about people they call "friends."
2006-11-23 21:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
poor cow, with a best friend like you,
she is still the same person and has probaly known for some time, but has now decided to act on it, do what a best friend is suppose to do, support her and let her know nothing has changed, just because someone is a lesbian it does not mean they are gonna jump on every girl around
2006-11-23 22:17:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
support her. I have a best friend and she knows I'm bisexual. she acts the same around me as she always did, it lets me know she feels the same way as she always did. Just support her, act the same, you could ask questions if you want (i.e. not questions like so why are you a lesbo?) but stuff like:
whats your gf's name? where did you meet?
When did you find out you were gay?
things like that
2006-11-23 18:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by Sammy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
welll if she was your friend she should still be your friend...she hasn't changed one bit...maybe you should examine what you expect your friends to be...you insult her in your language (lezbo, effing gf) and then ask why she chose not to tell you herself..Do a reality check.
2006-11-23 19:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Be there for her and support her. You are her friend, you aren't sleeping with her, so who cares what she does in her bedroom? She needs a friend now more than ever, so open your mind and continue to be a good friend.
2006-11-23 21:16:48 · answer #6 · answered by roxusan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're the one that's gay for chasing after turds that are going to dog and turn you out (and, then, on out into the street) anyway. Dive in and be really heterosexual for once. Join in and experience the lesbian threesome! You might like it. It's better than turds. Anything's better than turds! If you are still sympathizing over the male physical and mental defect, hook up with a gayperson and turn him out (and then, dog him out onto the street).
2006-11-23 18:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by fieldscharlie 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
well firstly shouldnt you find out from the horse's mouth? find out from her since she is your best friend afterall
after that, tell yourself, why were you best friends? i dont think its because both of you first told each other you were straight then went on to be best friends rite?
you sound homophobic, mayb you should make use of your friendship with her and open up, understand more of why she became such and accept her for who she is..
2006-11-23 20:44:29 · answer #8 · answered by acnemycin 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if she is your best friend, her sexual preference shouldn't matter. friends should be supportive of each others' interests. say you got a bf. would you want your best friend to not be friends with you because of that?
2006-11-23 18:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by windows attract eyes 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you said that someone else told you that she had a girlfriend. if thats true then i suggest that you go ask you friend about it personally. you shouldnt believe anyones information but your own. and if she is so what................ shes still the same person shes just not attracred ro males...............
oh and please dont be one of those friends who is all uncomfortable around their gay friends because you think they like you . Trust me she doesnt think of you like that ......espaecially if she has a gf
2006-11-23 19:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by Quee Roxx 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well i think it is not a permanent feeling of her...........wait and watch........her feelings will change very soon........till then u can do something........you can share her feelings, make him understood that normal life is soooo coooooool.........dont break your friendship.............afterall lezbos are also human being, only they have some different feelings............
2006-11-23 20:00:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋