if money can't by happiness.......?

Question

im having a hard time trying to figure out what i want in life. i come from a big family who struggle to make ends meet. (i dont want to ever finicailly struggle in life) Im going to college to get an education and find a carrer to pursue but im not sure i really care about the money factor. why should i? isnt it true that money only causes problems, not happiness? dont people who have money waste their life working, instead of spending time with their loved ones being happy? isnt that what life's REALLY about? why are people so money hungery? all you hear nowadays is.....go to school so you can get a good job and make a lot of money. which road is the best to take?

just wanted to give a little background so people will understand where this question is coming from---
yes i am young, im 20 but grew up fast for my age, im marring my high school sweatheart in feburary, we own a home, have two kids, nice cars, both go to school, im full-time, hes part-time and work. (im a bus driver --which i love-- and hes an auto cab designer) people who know me our very proud of me and cant believe the success ive achieved thus far. BUT obivously, latley im having regrets b/c things are hard & are moving so fast for me that i dont have time for my kids. finaicilly im living fine, but still i want more. i just switched my major to general business b/c i precieve more income. its a problem im dealing with i guess b/c i want money yet i still want a life ( yes, i know its my fault. i had kids too early & it hurts to know that we only have the weekends to spend quality time b/c im having to make the life for them that i should of already had before i gave life

so i guess my real question should of been.....what's more important working, or being home with the kids? ill go to school either way, thats not a problem. theres more to college than making money its getting an education. we can live comfortable without working (not struggling) but not having the million dollar home, brand new car at 16, ect. i want to give my childern. AWWW im so torn. neways thanks for all input, it really helps to get outsiders opinion

Answer 1

My dear....

the one thing you cannot change is the fact that there are other lives associated with what is in your life now.......

Those lives will be in your life for the rest of your life or theirs and you cannot change that.....

As they are young, your presence is the most important thing you can give them because they will need you to help them to get where you are now........

Your purpose is to help them to get an understanding of the world before they come to where you are now.... Trying to figure out how to figure out your life......

Don't do that to them...... help them to make correct decisions...... They will need you for that!!!!...... You don't want them asking the rest of the world for advice....... the world will give them bad advice.......


your sister,
Ginger

Answer 2

From your question, I get the impression that you are very young, and the mistake you are making is that you think you are working to get a piece of paper with a picture of a dead president. I'm a dad now, still relatively new at it. I have a 4 year old daughter and a one year old son. And I love them enough and that is why I work.

Money isn't an evil thing. When earned through hard work, it is a symbol of what you have achieved for yourself and for those whom you provide. So do your best in college. If you drop out and get a blue collar job, you will do more work, spend less time with your family, and get less money. If you become more successful in school, you have better chances of getting a better job that gives you more money and more time to spend for people you care about.

And above all, find a job and course you'd like. While money cant buy you happiness, YOUR WORK CAN! Find a job you can be proud of, and you'll never have to work a day in your life.

Answer 3

Money can't buy happiness, that is very true, But, money can make the way for happiness in so many ways.

It isn't that you work to make as much money as you can. There are those who do, but that is what their goals are in life.

The comfort of knowing you have a roof over your head and make all the bills, plus put a little away for future. Whatever future you want is going to determine what you do with the extra money.

Again, if you just make enough to get by, it is a true pain in the butt, because as sure as the sun comes up tomorrow, there is going to be something you didn't count on happening. And there you will be without funds to cover it. So it is good to have a nestegg to fall back if that happens.

Stay in school. Get a career, not a job. Do something you enjoy and it won't be a job. And save money. I don't say money is the absolute answer, but I do say it will provide the means to get what you need a heck of a lot easier.

Answer 4

Well the best thing would be to balance both... money can't BUY happiness, but what it can do is make you feel secure, and I think that is something that everyone wants. Nobody wants to have to worry about being able to pay the rent the next month, that only stresses you out and ruins the other aspects of your life... nobody wants to end up on the street or wonder how they gon get their next meal...
Just balance both. You can have a good job and live good and not make your job your entire life.

Answer 5

I think that as long as you have enough for the necessities and a little more, you'll be ok. If the quest for LOTS of money gets in the way of your happiness, for whatever reason, it's not worth having. I've had some high-paying jobs in my time, and I learned that there's a price to pay for those extra digits on the check - in my case, it was a lot more stress than I could deal with. I personally am happier with less money and "stuff," and more concentration on the things that matter to ME. As someone once told me - anybody can be rich, if he spends his whole life being concerned with money. If you're like me, simply being rich won't make you happy; make ENOUGH to live reasonably well and not have to worry, and do what you LOVE. Nobody ever lay on their deathbed and regretted not going to the office more.

Answer 6

Dear friend,

First thing that you should do is to find out what you want to do in your life. And then, go full heartedly to achieve it.
When you have truly discovered what you want in your life and are in pursuit of achieving it, 99% of your problems will be solved. You will improve and evolve as a better person and that will positively affect everyone around you.
People are money hungry, as you said it, because, they are not able to figure out throughout their lives, what their real interests are. They are unable to know throughout their lives, what really makes them happy and so, they think, money can make them happy. It is not money alone that makes a person happy. It is the work which makes a person happy.
Lack of money is the root of all evil.

Answer 7

Not being in your shoes it is difficult to answer your question, however one comment you made I will address.
Children require many things but love, support and guidance are The most important. What good does it do to live in a million dollar mansion and be dysfunctional as a family. What good does it do to be able to buy your child a brand new car on his/her 16th birthday if they haven't been taught responsibility, compassion for others and respect for authority.

Answer 8

No one can answer this question but you.

If you make loads of money but are miserable than no, money can't buy happiness for you.

If you stay home with the family but are miserable (which usually leads to abuse or neglect which is another matter entirely) than family can't buy happiness either.

Dear Abby has a great quote: "No one on his deathbed has ever said 'I wish I spent more time at the office.'"

Answer 9

Focus on your family dreams and the money will take the back burner, so to speak. You have a much greater mission in life now than to produce tangible things for others. Physical objects lack substance.

Answer 10

its not like u have only two options, either work 3 hours a day n make 40k or work 18 hr days n make 300k, just take a gap year or something n make enough money to live comortably ur entire life ...
number of hours isnt proportional to the money you make ... most people i know wont blv this but i genuinely find it easier to make millions than 250 k an year .... u dont do something harder u just do something different...if ur target is 20 billion or something i dont think u would exactly find urself LOOKIN for a job(read slavery)... its just a mental block people have that u need to work harder to make more money...

Answer 11

Which ever one you want, i come from a big family who just never had enough money and i'd love to have a big family too. so i want a good job so my future children dont go through what i did but i am afraid that i will be away from them but one day i'll realise what the right road is for me. Just think to yourself and you'll realise which is want you truely want.