Problems arise all the time in our lives, but what do you do when you have a real stressful problem? Are you compelled to talk to someone, or do you hold it in until you get the answer yourself?
Who gives you comfort and why, when you are troubled. Isnt it a better feeling when you get it off your chest? Or is it better for you to hold it in until you resolve it within your own realm and remedies?
2006-11-23 18:10:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Is it a good thing to talk to yourself? Or is it talking to God that helps?
2006-11-23 18:20:08 · update #1
Both are appropriate when they work for YOU. There are distinct differences. If you feel compelled to talk with someone, what's your PRIMARY reason? Comfort, or advice? (These can be co-mingled, but I'm asking PRIMARY). Often, a severely stressful problem can only be coped with/resolved etc. on a very personal, "inner" level, but I believe everyone needs comfort sometime. I've learned that for some people--just to have another LISTEN, without dictating or being critical, helps very much. As you express--"..when you get if off your chest." This definitely helps a lot! As for "resolving"--this is usually best done by oneself, introspection, evaluating, etc. But never forget how important it can be to get "input" from others whose objectivity sometimes provides the least expected insights!
In a way, your question just can't be answered simply. (Either-- Or.) How do YOU feel--what works best for YOU.
"Hotlines" or "Crisis Lines" can be awesomely helpful. For those who truly have no one with whom to share, (sadly, most elderly people), or those who prefer anonymity, simply having someone LISTEN & sincerely care, can make the difference between going on, or--either emotional or physical--suicide. "Personally," ( which really isn't my province here to say), I've found my "own realm" to be the best choice at times, yet also well being from conversations with good friends, where "mutual" adversities are shared. I feel (where are those italics!) that you're a sincere, & introspective person. I hope I've given you even a "tad" to think about. Your question is provocative & sound.
Hi--I never read others's answers first, & have now seen two very good examples of the dichotomy. "sonkysst" chooses self discovery; journals are a WONDERFUL way to achieve this--& "lovely" talks with friends. I didn't mention a "journal" yet that has been my GREATEST insight. Always.
2006-11-23 19:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by Valac Gypsy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself prefer to keep my personal problems to myself. Unless I am angered then I vent and vent for the whole world to hear. But, for the most part I work things out by writing. I write letters in a journal that I will never send. In them I state what is weighing heavy on mind. Then, I self assess what I wrote and think of why I feel this way, how and why I got into the situation, why someone may be treating me the way they are, why I am treating some one the way I do. That usually leads to self discovery and a solution.
2006-11-23 18:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by sonkysst 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel so much better like a real weight of my chest, but i jsut dont need someone ot listen i need to one to help me soemtimes. i dont usually discuss my problems with god but i will more often. because when i do i end up talkin out the answer to my problem and thats where i get my help from.
2006-11-23 18:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by trouble_jade 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 11:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i feel to discuss my problems with someone.
That 'll give me a great relief.
i like to discuss with my dear ones always.
2006-11-23 18:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by lovely 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i discuss it with someone close to me that will listen and giv eme good advise like my best friends
2006-11-23 18:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by Erikawithasmile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i usually hold things in then when i get drunk it all comes out and i drive people crazy with my b**ching. its not healthy i know and i rarely solve any problems. i just wait them out until they go away or until they blow up in my face
2006-11-23 18:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wud discuss it
2006-11-23 18:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋