Is my wife cheating?

Question

I am very in love with my wife of 6 years.But I have wandered up on her at work several times flirting with other men.Today i went to pick her up from work and there was a man following her around and they were laughing and giggling , but when she saw me she said something to him and the stopped talking.I confronted her about it but she tried to argue at first then she said he was asking her some questions.When we got home she went in the bedroom and laid on thebed facing the wall and would not speak to anyone.She usually will try to talk about it but9 not this time.I feel it is a guilty concious , because she always talks about other guys at work , and she is scared I have finally caught her messing around ....PLEASE HELP ME>>>>I REALLY LOVE HER>>>>>

Answer 1

Hey I feel for you. I found out my x wife was cheating on me at her work but I didn't find out until he started calling her.No matter how much I tryed to get it out of her she would not admit it until I found out for myself.That's a tough situation to be in.And I know it hurts. I found out you can't controll what she does behind your back. But just re insure her what kind of pain shes putting you through. I hope she stops and thinks what shes doing is wrong and that she can fess up. This is a cold world bro and I wish the best of luck to you. Me I'm alone now because I could not handle all the stress.

Answer 2

Well, how many times do you confront her with this? 1, 2 maybe 4 or more..reason I ask is because if you do this enough your going to drive her away. Even if she hasn't done anything wrong. She may just flirt, some people are like that. But that doesn't mean they don't love their spouse. But if your confronting her with this on a continual basis then, she is going to get tired of it. Because she is going to feel like you don't trust her. And if you don't trust her, then she just might feel well,,you don't trust her so she just as well do what your accusing her of doing. Does that make sense? If you really love her, then do just that, love her but don't smother her to death with love. That can suffocate a marriage real quick. And if your a Fireman, you know how quick those embers can go out if they are suffocated. So here is a suggestion, buy her a dozen roses, take her to a romantic dinner and start "showing" her how much you love her instead of saying it.

Answer 3

You caught her messing around? Chatting is not messing around? She usually tries to talk about it but not this time. Just maybe she is tired of you accusing her of cheating? If you constantly having the same discussion and she needs to explain herself and the explaination is always the same. She is going to just give up on trying to explain. Your so pathincally jealous you are pushing her to close up on you. Is that what you want? How many times can she stand to take you accusing her?? If she has talked about other guys at work then actually you had nothing to be jealous about. No wife is going to talk about a guy to her husband and be banging him. However if your going to be jealous and questioning her on her every move then she will stop talking about them.
Don't let your jealous ruin your marriage.

Answer 4

It's hard to figure out if she's really cheating or just flirting based on your question since you mention she has a history of flirting with men at work. You will need more clues to go on, although I'm inclined to think she has a thing for this guy but maybe she hasn't actually cheated with him....yet.

Answer 5

is she? i don't know but women usually cheat for the emotional aspect. are you really being what she needs? ask her talk to her be her friend and buddy. do you two still laugh together? do YOU flirt with her? women need these things, men are more sexually oriented. yes sex can be part of it, but we normally look to someone else when we aren't connected at home.
for the woman we need to FEEL attractive, and wanted. a lot of times we begin to feel like the maid and roommate who you look to for pleasure when YOU want to get your rocks off. sorry i know that's harsh, but true.
marriage is a constant job and needs upkeep. women need the hand holding or the "honey can we cuddle tonite while we watch the movie or t.v."
a good rule to follow is to strive for 10 non-sexual touches a day. go to WWW.marriagemissions.com
lastly i don't know your religion but praying is always helpful,it may calm you and give you some answers.

Answer 6

If you absolutly caught her cheating and still live together and have a non trusting look when you see her near another man. Boy the best solution, inwhich my grandpa told me years ago, You need to get better in bed. Make her excited and scream. Over and over. You can't wear it out. But you need to for a start vtry to wear it out. Every time she atarts talking or try to get out iof bed, lay it to her until you can't take another breath. You'll either break her or she'll break you. Good luck john

Answer 7

I personally do believe a relationship can survive with out trust. some people flirt that's ok women can take advantage of flirting in the work place. But cheating is dishonest and breaks trust. if she is cheating on you, then something is missing. Good Luck!

Answer 8

Theres not anything wrong withtalking to the people you work with. You just walked in and they were laughing---it breaks the tension. If that is all you have to go on--then I think you are off track. As far as not talking to you--I dont blame her if my hubby accused me of something like that for the reason you just listed I wouldnt talk to him for a while either. You really dont have anything here to prove she is cheating on you.

Answer 9

Did she get mad because you busted her?, or because you accused her?
I only ask because I know that to not feel trusted by your mate can be painful.
And then again, people DO cheat.

My best advice is to pay attention to your wife and watch for the small things that show satisfaction or unhappiness.

Does she always argue with you?
Is she always pointing out your faults when she used to be cooler?
Does she accuse you of cheating?--Usually guilt manifests itself in the form of unjustified jealousy.

Good luck.

Answer 10

It's really hard to tell.
Why expect the worse?

I worked for a company where I absolutely adored some of the women that I worked with. Married woman. We did some outside calls together ... Sure we flirted and had every opportunity ... but nothing ever happened between us. .... They were married and I was accountable.

Wouldn't you expect other men to find your wife attractive and fun to be around? She wants to be these things. It's human nature.

You say you're very in love with this woman ... but It sounds like junior varsity love to me. The last woman I loved ... the love was unconditional.