I have been in involved with my husband's(now ex) brother in law for over 4 years and can't seem to breakaway. I think I am in love with him but how do I know for sure that it's not lust? I know it's wrong but neither one of us can seem to walk away no matter how close we become to being found out. Is there anyone dealing with the similar situation? Any advice?
2006-11-23 17:44:38 · 6 answers · asked by poundcake1111 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I neglected to add that we do spend quite a lot of time together outside of sexual encounters. We have taken trips together and we share a lot of genuine common interest in the same things which has drawn us closer together. I have been separated from my Husband for over a year and married to my Husband for 10 years. There was not an immediate attraction between me and my brother in law. It wasn't until we realized we shared common interest and spent an increasingly amount of time together when we realized that we were becoming more attracted to each other.
2006-11-24 08:01:14 · update #1
if you're just seeing this guy for sex and that is the only kind of memory you have of him, then it's just lust. however, if the reason you can't get out of the relationship with him is because the two of you share such a connection in terms of views, emotions and the like, then it could mean more. the problem is, since you are only seeing him secretly, chances are you do not see in totality the kind of person he truly is. a good way to find out would be to spend time with him without sex, see how it goes, then you would be in a better position to make any decisions.
2006-11-23 17:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this should have ended before it started. if you know it's wrong, then why continue. just make a decision to walk away. it's not fair and it's very selfish when there's so many other people you can date.
it's DEFINITELY not love, it's not lust, it's selfishness because you're only thinking of yourselves.
2006-11-24 02:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by Kiki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you been divorced? did you cheat on your husband?
chances are, since this is a secret forbidden romance, that is why it is still so exciting. if it were to come out into the open, it would probably dissolve. so, keep up this, or let it out and see what happens....
2006-11-24 01:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by -- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats nice, your with exs brother. why do you just dig his grave now.
marry the brother in law. why play games?
2006-11-24 01:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by just hanging around 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is lust and will never work read the law on incence please . my opion ? based on legal fact
2006-11-24 01:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be able to stop.
2006-11-24 01:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋