There are billions of things I'd like to say; I know that picking the most relevant is good - but how do I get through to him on how much I really care, without overwhelming him with so much gushy stuff or whatnot that I bore him out of his mind, or lose his interest?
2006-11-23 17:36:33 · 12 answers · asked by Giovanni 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You can't.
Teenagers, as a result of the massive influx of chemicals in their bloodstream, actually have parts of their brain overload. The key one? Their ability to read non-verbal communication.
Psychologically, kids at this age need friends, not parental figures. So - be his friend. Be there. Confide in him and he will confide in you. Give him a symbol (a small token or ritual) that binds him to you, so that he understands that you are always there.
And pray.
Because teenagers are little sh*theads.
2006-11-23 17:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Million dollar question and who really knows the answer?? I have a 15 and 13 yr old both boys! I keep it simple and to the point! I DO NOT get all gushy and emotional but I do make sure they know I love them and I DO kiss them and hug them... just not in front of anyone that may embarrass them. REMEMBER YOU ARE AN ALIEN TO THEM AND SURE ARE NOT COOL! lol
2006-11-23 17:40:38 · answer #2 · answered by dee4rad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like Nicole G said leave them notes. My children are now 24,21,16. They have always had notes left for them on their pillow, on the dash of their car, where ever and when ever I wanted to let them know that they were special and loved. When they were younger I would mail them a card. Kids love to get snail mail even if it is "just from Mom". Recently when I was helping my oldest son move, I found the notes that I had written him. When I asked him about it he said "if I was ever feeling down or lonely away from home, I would take out the notes and know that you were there with me"
2006-11-24 01:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by mommawe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend you read the book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. Learn his love language and then use it with him. I did this with my kids and it worked wonders and it's super easy to do. They don't even know you're doing anything different because it feels so natural to them. It also works with friends, family, anyone you care about (even coworkers)! Feel free to email me if you want more info (dew_thirty@yahoo.com). I believed in it so much I started teaching parenting classes using the Five Love Languages as the theme. It really works!
2006-11-23 18:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by livelaughlove 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to like just being talked to, just having someone that is interested in what I had to say was golden.
Just ask what he is up to this weekend, or ask how school is or ask him about something he is passionate about, he will be so shocked that you want to hear about it! He will do most of the talking so that way you wont bore him
2006-11-23 17:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by adnie25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree completely with adnie. Shoving mushy stuff down his throat doesn't show him that you care, it shows him that you're the cheesiest parent on earth. Just talk to him without being sugary. I despise when my mom tries to be all lovey dovey and over happy. I know that she loves me, and she doesn't have to fake a jolly act (especially around her boyfriend) to prove it.
AND NEITHER DO YOU! =D
2006-11-23 17:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write little notes and leave them for him. Small gifts and nice gestures work wonders too. Sneak in a hug. I don't know what your situation is, but even if he blows off any praise or care, know that deep down he probably likes it.
2006-11-23 17:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This boy and girl teen bull shiiit his finally getting to me., You kids are obviously learning crap in school to come on here and ask stupid questions about your boy friends or what should I do what should I say to him to get him back...God damn....geez H Christ...get a life....there's no way, no way you could possibly come from your lawins
2006-11-23 18:23:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I guess it depends on if you are a friend or dating?
2006-11-23 18:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by Mango Monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him/her enough privacy,
give full support to his/her ideas and
respect all decisions that he/she has made for himeself/herself.
2006-11-23 17:50:04 · answer #10 · answered by silverLEMON 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋