In the beginning, he said he wanted to continue to date other people but said he wouldn't sleep with them. Last weekend, I told him I that I wanted us to be exclusive and since then, he has stepped way back. He just called and said I'm trying to put a lable on what we have and he doesn't feel he can give me what I want. He's 38 and his longest relationship (never married) was two years. I feel like a complete fool, but very sad. Should I hang in there, which might be putting myself in a position to hurt even more down the road, or walk away now? How do I get over him if he dumps me or I him?
2006-11-23 17:19:55 · 22 answers · asked by 2sweet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been there, done that. The best thing to do is RUN, don't walk, as far from him as you can get. The guy is not and never was serious about you, he was just using you. Guys like that are total creeps. When you least expect it, you'll run into a guy who can really make you feel loved and special. Good luck.
2006-11-23 17:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by blondee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF A MAN WANTS YOU
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
2006-11-23 18:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by Photographer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your both on different wave lengths your ready to settle in and play house and he's not so by you requesting you want exclusive dating and he being honest saying he's not ready respect that you do'nt want a man who can't be with you totally if he's not ready to plaly house he's not you can't push this. just as if he had told you the same thing and you felt differently . he's being honest about it give him space meantime don't hold your breath for him he's up front letting you know he likes part of the relationship but isn't the marrying kind of guy right now nor maybe never will be that will be up to you to decide how deep you want this relationship to go. But i would keep looking else where if you don't feel the same.
2006-11-23 19:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is 38 tell him what is he waiting for. what do you want? what about kids, are there any? do you want them? before getting serious with someone make sure you family goals are the same then move on to other goals. if you can't match up goals, then it's time to move on. if he is 38 without children he better think about weather he plans on it. Some people live in the now so much they wake up one day and see the forgot to plan. You don't want to be one of those.
2006-11-23 17:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is not an as's'h'ole, he told u from the beginning that he doesn't want to be exclusive and wants to meet other people. why do u think he said he wanted to date other women? because he wanted to find someone else, not u. so from the beginning he warned u about his intentions, he was quite honest. u were not smart not to understand what he meant, but it is your fault. he doesn't want to be with u as his life partner, he was using u for spending time. peole do that if u haven't found out yet
2006-11-23 17:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should run away, he is booty call material only and that is exactly the category he is trying to put you in. He is definitely too old for this nonsense. You deserve better. Cut him off cold turkey, otherwise you will be hurt in the end.
2006-11-24 04:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away, he is just using you, he knows he can get it from you anytime anywhere without compromise, until you said the big word "exclusive", he is old enough to know what he wants...and seems like commitment is not what he wants, if you want to stay in a relationship where may or may not end up in anything serious well...that's your call.
2006-11-23 17:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away NOW. If he has already said he feels he can't give you what you want, take 2 Giant steps back now don't wait to get hurt anymore than you are now
2006-11-23 17:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by Peggy Hogan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and don't waste any more time on this guy.
Either he's not really that hot for you -or-
he could be the type of guy that will never settle down or commit.
2006-11-23 17:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no longer something incorrect to be hassle-free with the kind you experience with reference to the guy, we are contained in the recent era that's not proper if the guy does the initiative or you.. yet there is not any might desire to hurry issues attempt to get to nicely known one yet another greater, take it slowly yet incredibly to stay away from heartache problems ;p
2016-10-04 07:40:47 · answer #10 · answered by bugenhagen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋