Ok so I've been talking to my boyfriend about me getting a breast reduction and he told me it is disrespecting my body and that i cant accept myself for the way I look.I do accept myself,but my breasts are too heavy for my body,they are causing me back problems and they are making the muscles in my shoulders hurt everyday.It strains my back and I just don't know what to do.Is it disrespecting my body?If it makes me happy would you consider it disrespectful?I told him if it makes me happy that its not disrespectful,he says it is.What do you think?
2006-11-23 17:18:34 · 22 answers · asked by Miss.Tubby Bear 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
They are your breasts - your choice.
Speak to a professional about it before jumping in to have this procedure done so you are fully aware of what you are in for but I must say I really don't blame you for wanting this done - it must be terrible to constantly have back & shoulder pain.
In answer to your question - no I do not think it is desrespectfuly.
Good luck in your decision
2006-11-23 17:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by Aussie Girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it is NOT disrespectful. If your breasts are causing you pain in your back, the extra weight could cause ireputable damage to your back and shoulders and a breast reduction would be a good thing to consider. This is something your boyfriend should take into account, not whether you are going to reduce the size of your breasts. I hate to say it, but it sounds like sexist remarks he is making to you.
2006-11-23 17:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by rosey 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ignore your boyfriend.
It's your body and you need to do what is right for you. The size of your breasts is affecting your overall health, therefore you should get a reduction done. You shouldn't have to live in pain everyday, especially when it's something easily fixed.
It is in no way disrespectful to your body.
2006-11-24 02:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's your body and you do what you want. If it's causing you pain, then talk to your doctor to see what your options are. Lots of people get a reduction and are happy with the results. It is not disrespectful to your body. Many people are born with, or in your case, develop into their body and it results in something that causes them pain or discomfort. In the end, it's your health and well-being that matters. Not anyone else's opinion. Good luck :o)
2006-11-23 17:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by AJA 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe you are respecting your body by listening to it, if your breasts are so large they are causing you back and/or shoulder pain that will only get worse as time goes on. If you are only doing this to alleviate that pain you are not being disrespectful, you are listening to your body and acting accordingly. But, if your boyfriend isn't listening to you about the pain you are experiencing and how you wish to alleviate HE is being disrespectful to you.
So, in my opinion, the only disrespect going on here is your boyfriend ignoring your pain; pain that will get worse over time. I'm curious to know his reasoning, is it because he likes your breasts that much more than you? If he truly loves you, or cares a great deal about you he should be listening to you. Have him look into the facts about breast reduction to alleviate pain in the back and shoulders.
2006-11-23 17:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by skiwitch 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think plastic surgery for the sake of vanity is disrespecting one's body. But if it honestly is causing you physical pain and discomfort, it's not disrespectful- it's necessary. Your boyfriend doesn't have large breasts, so he doesn't understand how they can strain your body, but he's going to have to just accept your decision.
Nobody can tell you what to do about this- it's your choice. You're the one who has to live with it.
2006-11-23 17:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by Aliza, Queen of the Night 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
On one hand, he might just be saying that because he likes your big boobs. On the other, he might be right. Now, normally I believe that you should respect your body by leaving it the way it is BUT when it comes to health. . . it's a different story. But also realize what makes you happy isn't always the best thing for you, but in this case I think it is. Tell him this and see if it changes his view point.
2006-11-23 18:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by Life Is Great 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh, if he thinks it's so disrespectful, he should carry around all those pounds every day. You have back problems and muscle pain. I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to fix that, particularly as the problem would probably get worse as you get older.
2006-11-23 17:26:29 · answer #8 · answered by random6x7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remind him that he doesn't have to lug them around all day every day, and that it isn't his back that hurts.
I am totally on your side about this.
I believe your boyfriend is being selfish. You can bet if you carried an extra 20 lbs on your hips he would not be first to tell you it is disrespecting your body to have this removed.
Bottom line, it is Your body not his.
2006-11-23 17:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by Norton N 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a bunch of bunk. Tell your boyfriend to strap a couple of sandbags on his chest and walk around all day and see how his lower back feels at the end of the day. He is disrespecting you by trying to dissuade you from getting medical treatment that you need.
2006-11-23 17:28:27 · answer #10 · answered by ValleyViolet 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋