In the past when i was much younger being single never worried me. But ever since i crossed 30.. it sort of makes me wonder.. Does being independent woman a problem.. Or perhaps i have too many expectations.. I get asked alot of times by men.. But i don't wanna start dating anyone just because it gets lonely.. I do believe the right guy would come along.. but how long should i wait is my question..
2006-11-23 17:06:39 · 16 answers · asked by julia1975 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
good news, you are actually one of the few people that actually have a good head on their shoulders. you wait til your comfortable about it.
dont listen to mags and tv about how you should live your life cause of age.
i wish you well.
2006-11-23 17:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by just hanging around 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By 31 all the right guys have discovered that they are gay or already been snapped up. Do you honestly think any right guy would have a chance walking around single?
But its not all bad news. In ten years time, a number of 40 yo women will discover that they are gay, and divorce their right guys, And quite a few men will go through a mid life crisis and abandon their wives to chase a 25 yo hottie, only to see that plan explode spectacularly in their faces. This is know as the second time around, and you will be able to pick and choose from these slighty damaged right guys. Some will still have their own teeth and hair.
However I would advise that you start liking cats now, just in case, you understand.
2006-11-23 17:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM the same as you im on my own and independant and although we would like the right man we won't just settle for anything that walks nor should you. You know what you want why settle for just anything also on the other coin no problem just having fun and dating whom ever you want and have fun along the way. totally up to your style. but no there is no problem being independent you would'n't want to be clingy even when you did find a guy you liked sure you spend time together but that doesnt mean you give up your independance and tag along he will have things to do and so will you. and don't wait for it to happen it may never just live your life. and if the un expected comes then welcome it with open arms and see where it tkes you.
good luck. have fun
2006-11-23 19:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
You are the young ,independent, professional of 31 years only.
You should be proud of that. The real life starts after 30 only.
Make friends you will find the solution of your most of the problems . Be happy and enjoy life.
Feel Free to Contact
Dr. Mojo
2006-11-23 17:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt settle just because you are alone. I remarried when I was in my late 40's, so your in your 30's what are you worring about?
Being independant is not a bad thing. As much as you will love that certain person when you find them you will always have the security of knowing that you can do it on your own if you have to.
2006-11-23 18:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by firefly06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not wait any longer because you will regret it and become bittered for the rest of you life. I already experiencing that and I am a man almost 35 and had no relationship, kiss, sex ever. You are going to have to go do some shopping for guys to date and find them instead of waiting for them to come to you or you will realized it is too late. Remember your only young once and have only one chance at youth before the body turns into a fragile body.
2006-11-23 17:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't settle. Marry a quality man. If you don't find any men that meat your tolerance level, don't get married. You'll be much happier than if you get married to someone that only partially qualifies in those areas that are essential for you.
Remember, you don't need a man to be a whole person. The man you marry must be as good for you as you are for him. Ideally, he will bring out the best in you and inspire you to be even better.
Sounds like you have your head on straight. Don't start doubting your instincts and continue to be true to yourself.
2006-11-23 17:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still very young, these days girls start getting married after 30, don't worry, being alone is very much better with being stuck with the wrong man, look at it that way, you are much wiser now, you will know when the right one comes along.
Good luck
2006-11-23 17:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 32, and my life is just starting. You will find Mr. Right. Until that time, you are right not to settle with Mr. He-Will-Do, or Mr. For-Now. Your soul-mate will come along when you least expect it. It will probably be on a weekend, when you answer the door with a mud-mask on your face in your Jammie's...lol
2006-11-23 17:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by Nut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having too many expectations is a big plus. Do not settle for any less.!
I met the love of my life at 31. Next is your turn! : )
2006-11-23 17:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it takes. Better to wait and find the right one than to settle for the right one now. Good luck!
2006-11-23 17:09:50 · answer #11 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋