Married 10 years... sex life lacking.... How often do "normal" people have sex? I need more than I'm getting.

Answer 1

There is no normal amount of sex per person or couples. Everyone is different. Sex is a very important part of marriage and those who think not are those that end in divorce or unhappy. I have been married for 22 years and our sex life has increased if anything. We cant keep our hands off each other. We play head games and flirt all the time. By the time we are alone we are all over each other. As my wife says sex is 24 hours a day. Phone calls, emails text messages and flirting never stops.

Start flirting with your husband, Grab his butt when he goes by and just smile. When you walk by him rub up against him slow and sexually. Just smile. Give him a kiss for no other reason than because you want to. Say something about wanting him to yourself really bad.

If you want a sex life then you both need to live it. Do your part and I am sure he will start doing the same.

Answer 2

Dang, I can't believe these statements here that there are actually women out there that aren't getting enough sex in their marriage? Who are these women? I sure don't know any women like that. All the couples we associate with are very clear that hubby is a bit of a bother and it would be so nice if he just didn't want it all the time.

So, to answer your question - not very often, at least in my experience.

Answer 3

Talk to your spouse!!! He may want more too. If not. Ask him to help you feel satisfied. Maybe you two can explore toys or dating each other secretly etc. My lover and I are not swingers but we sometimes go to swinger clubs and go home and have crazy wild sex. Before we got the nerve to do that we masturbated in front of each other regularly. It all started b/c I bought some cool toys from my cousin who sells them and when I got them I played with them in the living room while he was playing his video games. That warmed him up to the fact that I was ready to try new things. It has really worked for us! Good luck and don't give up!!!!!

Answer 4

I think normal varies by couple. Maybe you need to try communicating openly about it. You might find that you both feel the same way and this could encourage both of you to try new things. Or, try swinging. It actually works for a lot of people who have been together for a long time.

Answer 5

You need to find out what has caused the changes. Usually it's psychological. Makes sure your partner's needs are being met OUTSIDE the bedroom, and find out if there are any medications which could have stifled his sex drive. He may also have trouble getting it up, so maybe he needs viagra but is embarrassed to ask for it.

Answer 6

My wife has talked to me about the same thing.. She is not getting enough.. But sex with her is boring...we need to spice it up but she is to conservative... Is your husband physically attracted to you? Do you nag and complain about other stuff in life that causes him to want free time away from you? Become a freak in the bed and stop nagging!!!

Answer 7

What you need to do is find someone with a stonger sex drive that you can f**k with no strings attached. I would be more than willing to fulfill your wildest fantasies. E-mail me and we will talk.

Answer 8

Full of desire, saying sweet words,
approach her with your body stiff as a pole
and drive straight forward
to pierce her lotus and join your limbs:


Catch hold of her two feet,
raising them till they press upon her breasts
and her legs form a rough circle.
Clasp her neck and make love to her:



Lift the lady's feet until her soles
lie perfectly parallel,
one to each side of her slender throat,
cup her breasts and enjoy her:



Your lovely wife, lying on the bed,
grasps her own feet
and draws them up until they reach her hair;
you catch her breasts and make love:



The round-thighed woman on the bed
grasps her ankles and raises high her lotus feet;
you strike her to the root, kissing
and slapping open-palmed between her breasts:



She lies flat on her back,
you sit between her parted knees, raise them,
hook her feet over your thighs,
catch hold of her breasts, and enjoy her:

Answer 9

Doesnt matter what other couples sex lives consist of. Your concern is that you're not satisfied. Why not speak to your mate about it. Perhaps your mate isnt satisfied either.

Answer 10

try new styles while having sex...... arouse ur husband....

1)play with fruits...
2)hv sex at weird places (in a lonely safe forest)
3)invite more ppl and hv group sex
4)make his fantasies *** true