I m frm india, I got married nine months back..i love my husband he is a great guy...i live with his family -his mom, grand mom and cuz younger bro (he stays wit us coz his dad died and his mom works and my hubby wants to look after him, he goes home to his mom on the weekends).....and he has soo many frends tht i cant even count....m tired of sharing him all the time..i need him for myself sumtimes...this last week my in laws were out of town and i was soo excited coz i thought i'll have the weekend wit him alone...but his grandmom is cuming home 2morow .we cant go out of town or sumthing coz we dont have tht kinda money at d moment..m goin crazy and he cant seem 2 understand how sick i m getting of being the gud wife and not getting one small thing i crave for-his time.wot shud i do? i want to run away honestly..gimme sum suggetions, i wannna give dis marriage my best shot.4 ne1 who says m making a mountain out of a mole hill, its a a new city 4 me, i have no family or frends here.
2006-11-23 16:26:51 · 5 answers · asked by danny's mom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hey, you are such a sweet girl. You are so good with your husband. And you are so giving.
I think it can be sorted out. All you need to do is to pull his aside and talk to him.
Keep talking to him about you need his privacy and you want him to be there for you.
Don't give up so soon.
I know you can do it!!!
2006-11-23 16:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. Marriage does cause problems. Once you overcome them your life will be so happy.
You should sit down with your husband and explain to him calmly that you love him and you want to spend SOME time with him alone. Make that time special. Cook a nice meal, put on candles, or whatever works for the two of you. But also let him see that you make an effort to talk to his friends and family and spend time with them.
Marriage is a lot of give and take. But if he refuses to even listen to your request, then this would be bad news.
Good luck!
2006-11-23 16:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by Reinhard G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is on very shakey ground. It's going to take effort on both parts to make it work. You don't mention if your husband is trying to work on it at all or not, so it's hard to tell.
Get some counseling. Talk things over with an impartial person (don't rely on internet "advice").
2006-11-23 16:59:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just catch the next train out of town. Start fresh again
2006-11-23 23:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jomtien C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a strong family you are part of. you would would be foolish to leave
2006-11-23 16:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋