do men and women want sex?

Question

but why it seems that men are the one who wants it more, and women look at it as a 2nd or 3rd...xth in their list ?

Answer 1

Men are fudermentaly animals and sex is a natural desire built in to their instiincs for the reason of procreation or the ongoing of the human race where as women as all animals only really desire sex when nature calls them at their most likely to procreate time

Answer 2

I don't know about the rest of the women, I can only speak for my self, but I am 50 and I still want to make love every day and even 2 or 3 times a day. And I don't believe in cheating either, nor will I cheat!!! And by the way it is not 2nd or 3rd or xth on my list!!

Answer 3

If you have a plant and never turn it so it gets light on all sides, it gets lopsided and isn't as pretty. Oh, it's pretty--but on the part that faces outward, not the side you see. If repotting it as it grows is a chore, it takes a while but it eventually dies--and good riddance, it was getting unsightly. If simply watering it is a chore, it will die much more quickly.

And so it is with relationships except that each has to nurture the other, and don't kid yourself--it isn't just women that turn off the sex. If caring for a relationship is too much of a chore, if a man expects his mate to take over his mother's job of taking care of him, if a woman's urge to have and dote on children outweighs her concern for her spouse, if it's more important to work overtime to pay for a beautiful home and the boat and the RV--you have to pay for it somewhere. You lose the joy, the friendship, the sex, the house, the boat, the spouse, the financial security and may end up paying support. Are you really not able to figure this out for yourselves?

Oh, I've met women who think their sexual urges are paramount to everything, too. The woman who was divorced because she stopped the pill without consulting her husband. She wanted to rekindle his interest and how could he not feel the same way she did about this? It didn't work, just made things worse, but she knew how to fix that. It HAD to work the second time. She admitted this when I was on a date with her (they had divorced) but said she'd like just one more. CURB TIME!!!!!!!!!!! You're nuts if you think men are the only ones who get selfish about their sexual urges.

On the positive side, however, you can have the best sex in the world if you commit to someone and treat them right. It's a two-way street. Yes, I know what I'm talking about (I'm widowed). Before anybody thinks that I'm fantasizing a good relationship simply because she died, I'd like to note that we both considered it a mystery why so many people think that a simultaneous orgasm is considered a holy grail that you should have to seek after. We'd have it, fall asleep still coupled, I'd shrink, fall out, we'd both wake up and go awwwww...it's over. I hardly think we were the only ones, but most couples like that think it's just normal and don't really talk about it much.

So a man can spend time learning how to please the one he's attracted to (and how to enjoy cuddling, and how to delay his own gratification until he brings her up to speed and in sync with him) and a woman can learn that if she has a day off, she can welcome him home with a glass of wine and a tray of freshly broiled hors d'eouvres, and it's just all good. Even if you don't have the boat or RV.

I'm willing to entertain the notion that that is one extreme end of the spectrum. At the other end is plastic foliage, dildoes and blow up dolls. You pay your money and take your choice.

Answer 4

I know, ... can i answer... i ... know .. why

You are a boy... you think you have to hoax a girl to get into your bed. It ain't true. A girl might also want you as bad as you think. but....

there is a lot of difference in the way you look at it and we look at it.

For you it is yet another job you enjoy doing. But for us, it is a relationship. It comes just not from the bed but from the heart.

We wanna talk, and talk, and pour out our heart, and tell you all things we like and we don't like. We hope you'd listen, you'll enjoy the company with us, you'll be the comforter.

After all we are in love, we want the guy to ourselves to the fullest. Sex is the extreme part of our love. It is not a job, it is an art, it is an expression, and it is something very precious.

We like a guy beg for it, we want them to desire us, just not our body, when we know you love us no matter what, we don't hold it back. we'll give it to the full, till you enthralled and submerged.

But boys, once they are done, their stiffness in body shrinks, with it the love for the girl also shrinks. A girl is not more than a vegetable after the "use"

Only when it is scarce, men respect it. That is the secret.

Answer 5

U married peeps forget US single men might choose not 2 "do it" until mariage. What if 40-ish str8 virgin dosn't hav girl friend? Do U mean all married or single men ? When U have several kiddos, U may not b thrilled 2 get another bun in oven!

Answer 6

its the way men and women are different. women have different needs and don't need sex like a man needs it. It's scientifically provben in fact. It's not that women don't want it, we want it very much, but the part of our brain that triggers that is twice as small as it is in the guys. It doesn't mean we don't like it

Answer 7

Yes...in many cases both want sex. The man's genes tell him to procreate and get as much offspring as possible, because then the genes will be passed on as much as possible.
The woman's genes tell her to go for strong partner so that her offspring stands the best chance of survival.
Nature is neatly organized, isn't it?

Answer 8

not all women are the same. the ones that are done raising kids and it's just them and their husband/ bf will love to have sex 24/7. When there are less distractions around, women will want it just as much as men.

Answer 9

I haven't figured out how to shop and have sex at the same time...

Answer 10

We're just wired differently.