does he love me?

Question

i love my best friend, he knows how i feel and he said that he would go out with me if he didn't still have feelings 4 his ex. we are the closest of friends and we have spoke about having sex, and it may happen. i need to know if he has feelings for me or is it just to help him get over his ex? he siad i'm his angel coz i've helped him so much, he alwyas huggs me, even now that he's graduated from yr 12 he comes into school every day just to hug me

DOES HE LIKE ME

what is fwb

what is fwb

i aksed him and he said he loved me then he said he wasn't sure

Answer 1

FWB = friend with benifts.

This is a guys perspecitve:

It sounds like he really loves you. Because if you are as good of friends as you say you are, most guys arent mean enough to play their best friend, and use her for sex. You gotta give guys a chance atleast, before you just start judging that all guys are the same (out for sex).

The thing about coming to school just to hug you is kinda a "i want sex" thing todo.. because if some of his guy friends heard that story they would probably say "thats stupid why do you do that", to which hed probably say "itl get me sex." (or something like that). But, maybe im wrong and he really does like you.

Final verdict: Let him beat (aka. He loves you)

Answer 2

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Answer 3

maybe not. i don't think so.

if he loved you, he wouldn't still have feelings for his ex. he just don't want to be commited with you in a relationship, yet wants to feel loved and have someone to care for. he has lost his girl, and he couldn't adapt without someone there for him out of a sudden. he might be making use of you.

you have to be sure of how he feels towards you. or else you will feel very insecure.

on the other hand, he may really feel something towards you, and isn't ready to punge into another relationship in fear of getting hurt again.

be careful alright.

all the best yeah.

Answer 4

I have been in the same situation because i have a very close friend and i really like him and he knows also, but he doesn't like me, He says," Oh i would like you if you were not my BFF" wtf is that you know. Seriously when a guy says that, they dont like you it's just an excuse so they dont hurt your feelings but also have their own way of saying i dont like you back. I found that out when he asked some girl out behind my back. I used to believe he liked me but i came back to realitly. He dosent like me. I think you have to move on with your life, and dont let him get to you.

You will move on, Everyone does.

GOODLUCK!!!!! =)

Answer 5

you know i would wait because he has feelings for his ex and you might be a rebound girl even if he doesnt intentionally do it he might knot even realize whats going on beacuse he is just gunna want the pain to go away and try to do whatever he can to make it go away, he might think you are that thing but he can only heal himself

Answer 6

As I look back of the last fourty-five years - and ten children - and a wife who walked out on me after thirty-eight years together, I think I have some idea of what TRUE love really is.

Ask yourself - ask HIM - if he would want to take care of you for the rest of your life if there was no possiblity of sex or even kissing and / or hugging. If you were penniless and sick, and paralyzed from the neck down, would he still want to keep company with you - take care of you? Of course, if you ask him, he'll say "yes, certainly" but would he really?

At 65 years of age, I've learned two important things in this area.

First, if it were not for those reproductive drives and our social restrictions combined, no man would ever get married - and no woman would ever willingly get pregnant. No way, not EVER. Take on the responsibility for the lives and welfare of a wife / husband and children? Tie himself / herself down and give up the natural wanderlust? Give up a potential harem of willing pillow girls / guys? He/she'd have to be CRAZY! Indeed, that is EXACTLY what testosterone does to a man - makes him crazy.

Too much (as any doctor will tell you - and as life experience shows) and a man becomes unreasonably violent - and worse, it can make him not REMEMBER being violent!

Second, when we say we love someone we often mean that we want THEM to love US. There is selfish love, and platonic love. Platonic love is what keeps a couple together when things go wrong - platonic love is what causes a person to give to charities, and perform service projects. I have platonic love for my (x) wife. Even though I can't even touch her or hug her or kiss her when we meet at family gatherings or social functions, even though I'll never sleep with her again for the rest of our lives, I'd still provide for her for the rest of her life if I could, and if she'd let me! - that's TRUE love!

Selfish love leads to premarital sex, divorce, marital violence, and a host of other ills.

If your friend is coming into your schoold to give (and GET!) hugs, be careful - you are in school to learn, and anything that detracts from that is not in your best interest. In many cases it is not just "against the rules" it is also illegal. If you friend loves you, he may just be thoughless about this. If that is the case, you should remind him of WHY you are in school. If he takes it well and agrees to stop - and keeps that agreemtne, that's a good sign. The idea that you could get married and he will take care of you and your babies for the rest of your life is pure fantasy. You need an education - a GOOD education, "just in case" - in case he gets hit by a truck and dies - gets injured and can't work - runs off with another woman and leaves YOU with a baby- or babies - to care for - or even if something else happens and you simply have to take care of yourself. If he can't see that, then selfish love may be the real reason.

If we say we are "in love" we are often really "in heat" - -- The need to breed is one of the most powerful and least understood facts of life. We want to be loved. We cannot, it seems, live without someone who seems to care for us - and we need someone to care FOR. The "Need to Breed" and the desire for companionship can blind us to realities and lead to the most self destructive conduct.

True love means that you care about the welfare and happiness of other person no matter HOW they feel about you. True love means you would care the same if they left you and found another - you would care the same if they could never be intimate with you - you would care the same if they never touched your hand or kissed your lips. EVER.

Does he love you? Perhaps you need to talk to his X and get HER perspective about him.

MY X would be frank and tell you all about my faults and short commings - she would revel in the opportunity - and she'd tell it like she sees it. I might think she's wrong, but she would insist that she was being honest. If at all possible, I'd have a long, girl-to girl talk with her - don't get defensive of your friend. Be as cold and caluclating as you possibly can. If she gets hot under the collar and gets angry with YOU, try to handle it and get her to talk turkey (and I DON'T mean Thanksgiving).

Answer 7

Hell, no. He has you right where he wants you and now he is just making use of you. If a guy really likes a girl, he will never give her that i'd-go-out-with-you-if-only-i
-wasn't-still-in-love-with-my-ex excuse.
Sorry.

Answer 8

i think he likes you, but dont sleep with him. at least not for a long time, cause he couldnt just use you then it would be all akward or he could just leave you. make sure you dont have a doubt in ur mind.

Answer 9

well maybe,but the sense he gives me is still treating u as a closed friend.maybe he is trying to find out the proper relationship between you two.however it takes time,right?:)no matter how,time can prove everythin':)

Answer 10

he feels you like a FWB.....ive been through that. ;)
he kinda likes you....
the best thing to know if he likes you is getting him drunk then u ask him..if he likes you..he would say the truth..:)
xoxo
ps.good luck