This is not meant to be nasty and I don't want any rude answers. Every since I have been pregnant I can't enjoy sex with my hubby even though I want to. I know it won't hurt the baby and I know the baby doesn't know what's going on but it's almost like my body has went from sexy to mommy equipment. In my mind anyways. My hubby is okay with having sex and it doesn't bother him but because of my frame of mind I can't just let go and enjoy it. I find myself sexually frustrated and upset because I want to make love to my hubby but in my oppinion it's no fun unless both parties are enjoying it. I have tried exchanging back messages and everything and it seems nothing works. If you don't have advice then just let me know someone is out there like me. I am 18 weeks by the way.
2006-11-23 15:40:41 · 12 answers · asked by Brie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Please don't feel bad about the way you're feeling. Many women (myself included) have felt this way. Some of it might have to do with your hormone levels and some of it might just be that you're weirded by having sex with a baby inside of you. It's perfectly normal. I found that my drive went into overdrive during the second and third trimesters.
2006-11-23 15:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by boinga28 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah sweetie i was like you. Mine is 2yrs old now. Alot of your problem is not thinking your as beautiful/sexy as you were. The other is the weight of the baby on your body and there is nothing you can do about that. IT seems that no matter what position you get into A) your not comfortable and b) you can't breath or your back feels like its about to break. It will be ok i promise. Your also worried about the baby and no matter how many times a doctor tells you it won't hurt the baby you won't truley believe it till you give birth. Its a mothers false sense of security pre pardem. the best advice i can give is your are giving all your energy to baby....try to focus on you a little more. Im not saying totally ignore the baby...but unless you give yourself some attention your going to keep forgetting about yourself. You have to have you time and do things for yourself. You have a long way to go to. Just don't lose yourself in all this. Best wishes for all of you.
2006-11-23 23:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by mcshankel04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the book What to Expect When You Are Expecting..which btw is a very helpful book for first and even second pregnancies..in my opinion that is lol...it says that some women may enjoy sex tons more while pregnant...some may stay the same...some may be totally turned off....No real advice other than....it is normal..I felt this way at first too....I am 26 weeks now and Honestly..at about 22 weeks the sex thing goes away and you start to enjoy it again..its just one of those many stages of hormones...good luck sweetie.
2006-11-23 23:46:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very normal, try more foreplay, like let him kiss you here and there and stimulate you, you might want to watch a porno movie, hey why not? what turns you on? or maybe you can play with yourself for a little bit and when you are almost ready you can invite him to join. There are lots of things you can do, loosen up, get into it. Wear sexy underware, put some make up on and make youserlf feel sexy.
2006-11-23 23:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lilly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you will go through stages in your pregnancy to where you really want to have sex and enjoy it and then times when you don't. You are right it Doesn't hurt the baby and the baby definetly doesn't know what is going on. In fact, it is linked to an easier delivery. Good Luck
2006-11-23 23:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by Who Me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt get that way until my third trimester. It's a little psycological, and a little hormonal for most women. If your not ready, then dont force yourself...Because wether you know it or not, hubby may not really be enjoying it either. Try talking to daddy to be and see what he thinks about it.
2006-11-23 23:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 11 weeks and I'm just not interested anymore. it's been about a month since I've had sex
2006-11-23 23:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by nelly78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel ya hun! I'm 7.5 months pregnant and haven't had intercourse for about that long! Not sure what to tell you, other than your not the only one! Good Luck!
2006-11-23 23:43:51 · answer #8 · answered by Trisha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm having the same feeling and i am 15 weeks pregnant. So dear you are not alone.
2006-11-24 00:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by unfortunate gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds strange but nipple stimulation during pregnancy was arousing during my 3 pregnancies. GL
2006-11-23 23:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by Susan and Grant O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋